Stress and too much weed WILL do that to a person's body.

Tell him to "Grow Up"... no pun intended :D and stop smoking since it obviously rots more than your brain.

Well I really wouldn't care about him getting soft right now... not like you can have sex with him in jail anyway.

I'd dump him for someone with a job that doesn't need to smoke weed or anything else to alter his reality.

Yeah... that does sound better than waiting 2 years for him to come out. I would just (somehow) tell him that I wanted to break up and then I would find someone better who is *normal*

Well, yeah, stress (like being in jail) just might not be priming his libido full throttle.

A recommendation... don't lie about your situation when posting. Makes you look unreliable, untrustworthy, and fewer people will answer your posts.

I don't know about the jail thing, Perhaps you can clarify. Sex every day for 3 years? I think you have your answer. Take a break. Make it special and different. Antici... pation. Definitely don't "freak." That can only create anxiety for him and make the problem worse. It just happens sometimes. Not a big deal unless you make it one.

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Originally Posted by wild_girl

We have been tiogether 3 years and have sex evryday. it is great. I love it!!
BUT the last 2 nights in a row, he has went soft in the middle!! I freaked!!
He says it is because he is stressed, cause he DOES have alot on his plate right now..he also says it's because he was playing his videogame all day and can't focus properly and smoked too much weed, is this true?
WHY DO GUYS GO SOFT!!?!??!

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Guys go soft because it is def a mental thing... has nothing to do with weed...

Weed make you soft... it also makes you slow... Take a look at stoners.. most appear brain damaged to the average person.

Does he drink?
Alcohol is a MAJOR factor, especially in guys over 35.

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Originally Posted by smoothy

Weed make you soft...it also makes you slow....Take a look at stoners..most appear brain damaged to the average person.

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Lol

I heard that.

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Originally Posted by wild_girl

We have been tiogether 3 years and have sex evryday. it is great. I love it!!
BUT the last 2 nights in a row, he has went soft in the middle!! I freaked!!
He says it is because he is stressed, cause he DOES have alot on his plate right now..he also says it's because he was playing his videogame all day and can't focus properly and smoked too much weed, is this true?
WHY DO GUYS GO SOFT!!?!??!

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Yeah your predicament is really creepy, it might be part of a new pattern, and "the thrill is gone" stress and marijuana do play a part.. although I met a guy once who said pot makes him "hard as jade". (I really didn't want to know that)

Every time I date an older guy, that's their exact problem. Its really disgusting and disappointing, but after 45 or 50, they need more and more stimulus just to stay hard.

How pathetic.

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Originally Posted by cerulean

Yeah your predicament is really creepy, it might be part of a new pattern, and "the thrill is gone" stress and marijuana do play a part.. although I met a guy once who said pot makes him "hard as jade". (I really didnt want to know that)

Everytime I date an older guy, thats their exact problem. Its really disgusting and disappointing, but after 45 or 50, they need more and more stimulus just to stay hard.

How pathetic.

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I'm 46 and I never have a problem getting hard or staying hard... and can stay that way far longer than the average guy half my age.

Without the help of any little blue pills or any assistance other than my wife being there.