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Originally Posted by bigdreamer85

This reminds me of something I heard over the weekend...
All Men are A-holes, you just need to figure out what kind of a-hole you can live with...

And it sounds like yours has hemroids... Unless your like 17 or have a lot of kids or something, for him to say you sure terminate the baby just shows he doesnt care about you, he just wants the P. There are decent guys out there you just need a little time to find mr. right.

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Tell me about it.. ya there are decent guys I just think that I'm one of those women who always ends up choosing the wrong on... hopefully one day I ll learn how to choose
No I do want the baby but I'm only 20 years old and I don't know how to handel all that because I don't really have anybody

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Originally Posted by jazzbabie

To me, from personal experiences i feel that to a man a women is nothing more then a body to use and a pretty face...and even when ur realionship is on the rocks they still want to have sex...whats up with that..why do all men only care about sex...I am in a realionship also and may be pregnant and he knows and he wants to have the pregency ternimated ...yet still he wants to have sex and thats all...
soo i was just wondering am I the only one who feels tat way or are there other women who think tat most men only want you in bed and thats it
.and to the women who have the man of their dreams ...all i have to say is your soo lucky you do not have to deal with the a** holes out there

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"...all i have to say is your soo lucky you do not have to deal with the a** holes out there"


The fact that you said that make me think you know your man is a jerk. It doesn't matter who you are... you are worth better than that. Yes, men love sex. But they should love you more and respect what you're wishes are. I think it's time for you to take a risk and meet a different kind of guy. If you go for the "life of the party" guy... pick the more quiet kind. Who knows, maybe you'll liven him up... but his roots and values on women won't change. Don't think that you are only attractive to one type. Ditch the a** hole. <3

I can't believe no one has the balls to say what's really going on

Doesn't anyone listen to Tom Likus on the radio?

For the obvious answer... Yes, men appreciate the finer things in life- sex, beer, and drunken sex. I'm not saying men don't appreciate women, I'm sure most do, but in reality every one has an agenda. While yo are asking "why do men only want sex" there are men out there saying "why do women only want commitment"

It's give and take. I say terminate the pregnancy or put the child up for adoption. I disagree with letting the women have full control over that decision. That is a different issue though and I am not here to discuss that.

I am here to say why men want what they want- It seems pretty straight forward. Men want what they can get. Most men are visually stimulated, whilst women are more empathetic learners. It's a homronal thing. Men do not crave that feeling of nurturing and wanting to be needed. Men are focused on the result. Perhaps a bad way of saying it is that we are "goal oriented".

Think about the way society has been shaped. From birth to death all we hear is that we should wait for sex until we are married... the Goal is SEX, and a relationship is the means to an end. It's simple psychology. To make a relationship work, you simply need to create a better goal. Create something that gives the man in your life a purpose, or a reason to stick around. Alternatively, you could try not focusing so much attention on SEX. It creates a taboo nature about it making it seem like a challenge to get. Thus once attained, the man must find a new challenge.

The key is finding something else that is fulfilling to both of you. If sex is the only thing you can both agree on, I'm sorry to say it, but it's actually your fault too! He focuses on it as the most important thing, and you focus on it as the least... see where I'm going with this? You are contradicting each other.

If you only go after the "bad boyz" that's exactly what you'll get. Yeah there are guys like that... then there are perfectly fine looking women who won't talk to the average guy and only go after the very kind of man they complain about.

I'd say is at least as much the fault of the women who chase ofter that kind of guys as it is that kind of guy. They get away with it because they find no trouble getting women because they trow themselves at that kind of guy.