Are you doing something your wife would consider cheating? I am married. My husband knows how I feel and what I do consider cheating. And I DO consider a married man going to a strip club without his wife, to be cheating. If you feel ashamed by it, then I think you have the answer you want right there. If you have to ask strangers if what you are doing is wrong, then I think you know in your heart that it is. You should know how your wife would feel.

If you are going there because you are lonely, call up a friend to hang out with. If you are going because you are horny, look at porn. At least with porn you and your wife can both feel better knowing that some other woman isn't actually grinding her naughty bits all over you. On the other hand, maybe you enjoy that sort of thing. Maybe your wife is the type of woman who isn't jealous and wouldn't mind a lap dance or two. You would know better then we would how she feels about that.

I would suggest letting your wife know what you've been up to. Whether it counts as cheating depends on what she defines as cheating.

I saw this on Eye for an Eye a TV court show where the Judge picks unusual 'pay backs'
The wife took her hubby to court because she was sick of him going to strip clubs.
Judge Extreme Akim had the wife learn to strip and then the next time he went to the
Strip club SURPRISE his wife came out stripping and he ran up and threw his jacket around her. So the moral of the story is think of how you would feel if other guys were to see your wife strip. Think of how these women are somebody else's daughter, girlfriend and wife.

If you still want to go, really check your motives and consider the consequences of if your wife finds out.
Often a girlfriend or a boyfriend, husband or wife, will do something one time or for a very short time and then realize it could ruin their relationship and realize how much it means to them to not take the chance and months later after they quit the other finds out and either will not forgive them and end the relationship OR forgive them BUT totally lose their trust and then they want to know everything you are doing, where you were, why you were late. They turn into a real nag and constantly thinking the worse and accusing. Then the relationship ends up ruined because they can't find any way to get rid of the mistrust they have.

I see nothing wrong with it as long as your wife is aware that you're going and she's OK with it. Although I take it she doesn't know... that's not good.

Whether it's cheating or not, you should stop going. First, the beers are expensive at strip clubs. Second, a 3 minute lap dance will cost you $20. My guess is that you spend no less than $100 every trip.

Why not spend that money on your wife? Heck, after a couple months of saving, you could afford to take a flight out to meet her!

When I went I would nurse a drink along for about 45 minutes, and tip each dancer a $1 each turn at the stage. Lap dances aren't legal here nor would I spend $20 on one even if it was.

You can get out of there cheap like I did, or you can throw away a huge sum of money real quick. And to me that's plain stupid.

You are worrying waaaay too much about this. There seems to be an issue heer nobody is addressing; Your wife is away on a business trip for 5 months! I assume she is coming into contact with all kinds of other men both personally and professionaally, and although I can not state with 100% certainty, I would say the odds scream in favor that she is also getting her needs met on the side. Don't fool yourself. I say go to the club ( as long as you can afford it) and maybe get a little piece on the side for yourself. Whaat's good for the goose...

Mocha,

Did you and your wife discuss the lack of sexual contact on BOTH your parts for all those months. If not, why??

Stop going to strip clubs... they are a bad influence on your psyche just like porn is. Don't become an effer, be a lover. :)

This is a good time for you to take up a sport and get into good condition.

Don't tell yourself you NEED the stimulation of a strip club excessively... you are making yourself weak and self-centered.

Good luck! :)

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