Thing is, I don't want to be with another man. I mean I just don't even like that idea. And really, it goes against everything I've always liked, which is straight sexual fantasies. So.. in any case I agree with you it might help, but Im not really going to do something like that. Im going to continue being straight, hopefully for the rest of my life.

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Originally Posted by Kattalover

LOL at the bottom issue. ;)



I'm wondering how to test this on my husband without freaking him out. I mean, using a dildo is one thing, but having your wife probe around in there with... Well, that's stuff for another post!

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As long as he isn't homophobic is he lets himself relax he is likely to find it feels really good. Hell I have no desire to have a guy playing around there at all, but my wife is perfectly fine to do whatever she wants wherever she wants with me. After all if after 16 years of marriage she can't feel free to do that then what sort of marriage is it.

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Originally Posted by David_OConner93

Thing is, I don't want to be with another man. I mean I just don't even like that idea. And really, it goes against everything I've always liked, which is straight sexual fantasies. So.. in any case I agree with you it might help, but Im not really going to do something like that. Im going to continue being straight, hopefully for the rest of my life.

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As me.. straight as an arrow. Zero desire to touch another guy, ever. Wife likes to see bi and gay porn at times... but as far as I'm concerned whatever a man and woman do together is between them and OK.

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Originally Posted by David_OConner93

Becuase I like to use dildo's and look at gay pornography more than straight I often wonder if I myself am gay.. yet, I like straight things to. I fantasize too much but is that really something to worry about? And Am I gay? I wouldn't do that with another man in real life..

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David on most odds you are not gay you could just be going through a change. or most likely you could be bisexual not that there is anything wrong with that its you and only you and its also your business if you find out that you are dont feel ashamed of it

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Originally Posted by americangayboy

Bisexuality is understood as a continuum. You very well could be bisexual or homosexual, but who cares? You just need to do what makes you happy. I will say that you have an attraction to men, whether or not you act on it.

"Gay" is an identity, if you don't identify with the gay community, you're not gay. I do think you owe it to yourself to find out if you like having sex with men, you could be missing out on finding your ideal partner.

By the way-I'm not one of those gay men who say "don't knock it 'til you try it" to every straight guy, but I think you should try it.

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Don try it if you don want to claim it cause after you try it your going to have to claim it

Don't have sex with a man if you don't want to, but don't refuse to just because you don't want to think of yourself as bisexual or gay. None of us wanted to be a part of the GLBT community when we were coming to terms with our sexuality, but that doesn't mean we wouldn't be gay had we never tried.

Furthermore, if you do have sex with a man, no one needs to know. It would be between you, him, and whomever you choose to tell. If you don't want to do it, don't. If you try it and don't like it, oh well. If you try it and like it, good for you. But the first option won't give you any insight into your feelings.