Ask Me Help Desk - Wow I'm not sure what to make of this.

Wow I'm not sure what to make of this.

This is kind of embarrassing... so please bare with me and don't judge or anything

I took a nap this afternoon and I had a dream that my sister asked me to check why she had a lump on her breast and I felt and asked her why she hasn't gone to the doctor. And then we started having sex! Standard lesbian style, no one grew a penis or anything. But it was just way weird. And I had one of those sleep orgasms. I am completely confused, and have no idea why I would have this dream. I'm not gay (nor do I find anythign wrong with peple who are) and I'm just not sure why this dream would have happened.

Hi, jenniepepsi!

Has your sister had any health issues recently, please?

Thanks!

Mmm well, as you asked, I hadn't thought of it before, it seems unrelated but last night she was drinking way too much, she always does. And I kept thinking all night that she is going to die of liver failure or something. But no health issues at the moment. My grandmother came home on hospice to die this morning though, a few hours before I took my nap?

You definitely have had some heavy thoughts and concerns on your mind!

Would you like to "fix" your sister concerning her drinking issue?

I would like her to stop drinking. And realise that her saying isn't true 'beer fixes it'

When we truly love and care about a person, dreams will often be manefestations as to how much we love and care for the other person. Even though the dreams might be bizarre in the nature of how we and the other person are portrayed in the dream.

Are you familiar with the following book?

LINK TO BOOK

No I've never seen that book but thanks. Should I read it myself or give it to mysister or both?

Thanks clough. You're a gem.

It would be good if you would read the book yourself first, so that you understand what's involved in it. It's one of best books that I've ever read. Am on my second reading of it in two months time. Actually, the third reading, if I include the time spent reading it with my sponsor.

I'm a member of A.A. Have only been a member of it for a couple of months. What's happening to me now, is that being involved with those kinds of people is changing my life for the better in incredible ways!

My "career" in drinking began at the age of 15. That was about 38 years ago. A couple of months ago, I was "forced" into "retirement". It was either quit drinking or die!

How often and how much does your sister drink? Also, how is your grandmother doing now, please?

If someone truly is a real alcoholic, people that know all about the addiction and how to deal with it the best are very cautious in the choice of words that they use when confronting someone with a drinking problem.

At this point, your thread here would seem to be more about Mental & Emotional Health than about something sexual in nature. What would you think about moving it to a different forum topic area?

Thanks!

My sister has been drinking since about 15 or so. And she has been an alchohalic since then I think. The first time she drank, she drank to unconsciousness and my mom had to get her. She does that a lot too but not all the time. She drinks every day/night. She starts around lunch time and doesn't stop until 2am or if she runs out. And there are only a few days when she Doesn't drink at all. F

How old is your sister and is she employed somewhere?

No she doesn't work she lives with our mom and dad. She is 22

Do your parents know how much she drinks and where does she get the money to buy what she drinks, please?

Something to consider, sometimes a dream is just a dream. Dream interpretation is something that is always hit and miss. It could be a metaphor for emotional intimacy and the breast cancer is your concern for her health and well being.

Then again, your subconscious could have been horny and that was the most convenient dream to bring up. Who knows?

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Do your parents know how much she drinks and where does she get the money to buy what she drinks, please?

Yes they know, they are the one who buys the XXequis for her.

Now, this is getting complicated...

Do they have a clue as to what she's becoming and what they're doing to her by contributing to her drinking?

Do your parents drink a lot?

I apologize for being so nosey. But, it seems to me that there is something serious going on, that could really get a lot more out of control and detrimental, where there needs to be some confrontation as well as remediation.

Thanks!

The exam on the breast could definitely be your subconscious fears for her health. The sexual part could be you liking certain features of your sister that you would like to have in your partner. I don't mean that in a sexual way, but if she is really funny, or honest, or out going etc...

I know you don't desire your sister that way, but it felt good in your dream because in dreams there are no inhibitions, dreams know no shame.

Your body is just trying to give you an idea by electrical impulses of the compatible chemistry that you are looking for.

It could also be one of those 'only in dreams' interpretation of how much you truly love your sister (non sexually of course), or on the contrary could be hidden feelings of sibling revelry. I have even read that dreaming of sisters can be interpreted into something more spiritual ( sister meaning nun). I think I remember you saying you are dating a new guy, have you by any chance been arguing or recently had a fight?

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Originally Posted by Clough

Now, this is getting complicated...

Do they have a clue as to what she's becoming and what they're doing to her by contributing to her drinking?

Do your parents drink a lot?

I apologize for being so nosey. But, it seems to me that there is something serious going on, that could really get a lot more out of control and detrimental, where there needs to be some confrontation as well as remediation.

Thanks!

My parents know. I think they don't know what to do about it. No they don't drink at all.
And no problem being nosey hon

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Originally Posted by Aurora_Bell

The exam on the breast could definitely be your subconscious fears for her health. The sexual part could be you liking certain features of your sister that you would like to have in your partner. I don't mean that in a sexual way, but if she is really funny, or honest, or out going etc...

I know you don't desire your sister that way, but it felt good in your dream because in dreams there are no inhibitions, dreams know no shame.

Your body is just trying to give you an idea by electrical impulses of the compatible chemistry that you are looking for.

It could also be one of those 'only in dreams' interpretation of how much you truly love your sister (non sexually of course), or on the contrary could be hidden feelings of sibling revelry. I have even read that dreaming of sisters can be interpreted into something more spiritual ( sister meaning nun). I think I remember you saying you are dating a new guy, have you by any chance been arguing or recently had a fight?

I didn't think of that. But its not that she is funny or honest, she is very aggressive, mean, and independent. All oposites of what I am. And I DO wish I could be more like her. Have more of a 'backbone' so to speak. Or you mya be right, its exactly what I look for in a partner, someone who is strong, takes no crap, and protects their loved ones (she wants to be a cop so she can protect everyone)

I do love my sister. My sister loves me, but doesn't like me a whole lot, I'm not what she thinks a woman should be (im a 1940s woman pretty much. BEFORE the women's lib)

Funny you ask that, I was dating a guy from school. But I haven't heard ANYTHING from him since the last day of our last class which was a month and a half ago. He just sort of disappeared. I'm a little mad about it, but a littl worried. He could be dead for some reason and I have no idea. OR he just doest have the decency to call or text or leave me an email or anything lol.

A lot of times when a woman dreams about sex it portends domestic disagreements.