Hey I'm 18 years old and I have a girlfriend she's 18 also we dated before but dident have sex the first time so now we have been datein for a moth and were have sex now. The first time we had sex I got off in like 25 sec and went limp so then I made a really dum excuse to stop. Its so weird the sec time I was fine I dident getoff and we banged for 30 min then had to stop because she said it hurt. The third four and 5th was the sames as the first. I get off in 20 sec then go limp I can still preform but I no it isent doing her needs. If I can stay hard or keep myself from getting off ill be a dream come true. I also lost my virginity to her also. Please help me!! It suck very very very very badly

These are coming up a lot lately you can search the forum if you don't get many replies. But there are only afew things you can do and none of them will be a 100% cure.

It's a long road and some guys come out slow from the gates of being able to contol themselves. The most important thing I think would be to let your partner know that you have the problem if by some miricle she has not found out already, this and just getting used to the feelings of having sex are the most important. Position helps to an extent, her on top is generally the easiest way to get longer sessions in. Just make sure you have her slow down if your getting close. Another tip is to think about it as little as possible. If your really having a hard time holding it in research " Keggals " its basically working out the PC muscle ( the one you use to stop yourself mid flow while going to the bathroom ) and after a few MONTHS of regular workout you will have an edge on holding it.

Maybe a Google search will yield some better results than what I have to offer you.

You have probably trained yourself through eager masturbation to consider ejaculating a race to your pleasure.

Now, you have to *start over* with your thinking about and practice of sexuality with a partner.

I think you can do exercises while masturbating to learn how to delay ejaculating. Also, get a book on how to be a good lover.

Best wishes! :)

Sorry about the mis-spelling also about kegels I don't know about them really. I did some research on them so I would know what I was talking about when posts like these came up and some people say that it can actually decrease the time you can last. So all I can say about that is either don't do them at all or do some research of your own and come to your own conclusion.

Its natural for you to lose a hard-on once you have . Then when you get it back up you go forever, but your partner can't take what you bring. The reason for this(that I've found, over years of love) is strictly that at the age of eighteen, with not a lot of previous sexual experience, neither one of you know how to pleasure the other. We (men) at this age are all about putting the in the and blowing our load. Believe it or not, this is not doing much for the girl. You need to talk to her about what she likes, clitorus is a spot I would recommend exploring , with her help. When I was your age, I would nearly go before I even got in. Its more a matter of time and experience than any thing. Don't feel bad my friend. This is normal for your situation.