I'm trying to clear my head about some things that are bothering me. First of all, my fiancé and I have a VERY loving and wholesome relationship. However, I am bothered by some things. First, he has a liking for pornography and hentai that unsettles me. It makes me feel unattractive when he masturbates to porn, because I can do the same for him. We also haven't been having sex NEARLY as often as we have in the past. Is it because he thinks I'm unattractive and wants me to "measure up" to the "beautiful" women in the porn he looks at? I'm just worried because his sex drive seems unusually low for a 22 year old. He always claims he's tired, yet doesn't have a job and doesn't do much during the day. We used to have sex every night, but now I'm lucky to get it 3 times a week. Please send advice!

You say he doesn't have a job, he doesn't do much during the day, he is tired all the time and that he likes porn. Honey I think he is doing a lot more than you know about. I think he is spending his day masturbating. You say it makes you feel unattractive when he masturbates to porn, Please don't tell me that he does it while you are there. And please don't feel like it has anything to do with you being attractive or not. Watching porn is an addiction and the more you watch the more you want to watch. So much of the time it also looses it effect on a guy and where it did at one time turn him to see a nude girl it becomes where he has to watch an orgy to do the same thing for him. So I think that is what is wrong with the sex between you two. He needs the excitement of all of what he is use to on the porn shows. I feel you are lucky to be getting it three times a week and I also think that will drop off in time.

Talk honestly to him and I hope he gets a job. I don't care what others say a guy who masterbates too much cannot be pleasing his female. This dude has too much time on his hands. No pun intended. Don't take his problem personally, as that will make you insecure and defensive, not healthy for you, but talk, not argue about him working on himself in a positive way. Again no pun intended.

I feel you I'm going threw the same thing kind of but inever saw my boyfriend masterbate he's 23 years old and we use to have sex all the time know like you once a week or even longer I was told maybe he's getting it somewhere else men they are so unpredictable you never know what's going on in their head but sex is a big part in a relationship to me it makes me feel loved and wanted without it I feel like I'm not wanted I know I need to move on