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My girlfriend recently tried pot and had a good experience . I am not into it and haven't tried it. She tells me that she enjoyed it and plans on doing it again soon. And would like me to try it , so I can see for myself that it is not that bad. What are your thoughts on Pot. Having not done it should I ,or shouldn't I try it to see ?
You know, that's a tough one. On one hand pot is illegal. On the other hand it's a plant that isn't all that bad. I'm all for smoking pot but I am not for going any further than that with other drugs. It takes an appreciation for pot and not an addiction. So if you do decide just make sure when someone tries heroin you don't decide "oh its not that bad".
Aslong as you feel comfortable doing it, then go ahead, a little bit won't hurt! A lot of my friends do pot and I have tried and chosen not to do it anymore, as it can get expensive! Just don't feel pressured into doing it! :D
Honestly,
For most people once they start they have a hard time stopping. They continue having it more and more and eventually if it is misused then it cause that person to lose ambition in life. For example, if in school grades will drop. Most of my friends from high school is what you would call potheads, they did not get any where in life.
Personally, If you do not feel comfortable doing it. Do not do it. Do not try it if you do not feel comfortable with it. Please do not feel pressured by your girlfriend. If she judges you for not trying it. Or gives you a hard time she is not much of a girlfriend.
On the other hand if you feel like trying it, it is completely up to you.
I have heard a lot of good things about pot and a lot of bad things about pot. Also you have to be careful on who supplies the pot because people could spike it with other things that are not so good.
Personally I feel that smoking pot is actually healthier then smoking cigerattes. Cigerattes has 5000 or more chemicals in it.
Pot well I am not to sure but I know it is more natural.
It has some medical, for medical conditions. I believe it is good for medicinal use. Smoking anything is not good for the lungs but there are other ways of having a good dose.
Joe
It is illegal in the US, if I lived in a nation where it was legal, yes I would smoke it from time to time. It was a major pastime in the 60's and 70's for me.
Now today you have to be careful some dealers mix it with crack or other drugs to hook you move, and the quality and safety is a lot less today than in the 70's. I would not trust anyone to buy it today.
Plus if you do buy it, and use it, most places have 0 allowance so you get a test and you lose your job, and you can get arrested for having it.
So it is really a stupid choice to do and use in the USA at this time.
I think the thing I'm most worried about is the fact she enjoyed it ,and plans on doing it again. I worry about what the quality of pot she is going to be smoking and how it may change her down the road . Basically I care for her very much and would rather not see her experimenting with this . Yes a lot of people do do it, but I look at it as she is past the school years and into the years where we are planing on a future together, family ,kids why get into it now? Is there anything I can tell her to make her think about it a bit more . Or should I just leave it alone ?
You can not force her to stop this. You can suggest, communicate how much it bothers you. Things like that but if she is going to stop it has to be her own decision. It is hard to see somebody go down the wrong road. It sounds like it could be a very troubled road. One where she may lose important people in her life? Are you going to stick by her no matter what? The thing with pot is if planning on the future with children then pot has to be thrown out the window. Communication is key, and if she does care about your feelings and what you think then she will give it a second thought.
I think its worth an informed discussion about the benefits versus the inherent risks, bearing in mind how those risks may work against what you're both trying to build together. But I would keep the discussion very low key. You might invite her to do a little research together with you about it on the computer to get a bigger picture and then talk it over.
It is a personal choice that you need to recognise, yes, but should casual occasional use grow in proportion (like into ongoing regular use) it certainly has group ramifications -- such as her ability to be employed, her spouse (who lives with an illegal substance) and her kids/pets (who may discover it and do something inappropriate with it) -- and that changes everything. My dog once almost died from ingesting some of my (first and now ex) husband's stash. It cost big bucks to save her when we were strapped for cash and I felt pretty embarrassed taking that call from the vet when he finally discovered what is was by digging some weed out of her back teeth.
Its understandable that she is curious but its also a big misnomer that pot is not addictive; I have seen the addiction firsthand in others. It's more on the psychological side than physical but just as powerful. Like alcohol, not everyone is at risk for addicting to it too. However, it can also be the gateway to other drug use. This is not to say she is heading down THAT path but only that this is how that path is begun. I've done a bunch of drugs, and used to drink too. I was in the addictions recovery business a long time. One of the things I told kids upfront was cocaine IS the world's greatest high and that's WHY it is such a problem. Along with a great high, however, is this huge, almost invisible down side. Best to look at the whole picture rather than make your decision based simply on the experience of it -- big mistake, that!
Perhaps you can (gently and lovingly) help her sort out her motivations and afterwards, buy her a beer instead? LOL I hope this helps and that you two can work it out. Now is the time to begin to develop those critical negotiating skills -- your future marriage will fare better for it. Good luck!
Well let me put it to you this way. People will tell you it is a gateway drug, and in my expierences, it is. I started smoking it, then I moved on to harder drugs. Im off them all now but it could have been worse, I might not have wanted to. I spent a year and a half in jail for pot. Once you smoke it you will start to get used to it, and if you buy it,someday you might sell it. And then you're a rocky road. Stay away from it, if you get addicted to the routine of smoking it, you will get careless. Please take my advice
I thank you all for your input , I talked to her a more explained how I care for her ,and her health . As well as our future together . I still think she feels that it is not a big deal and that my concerns are not a problem to her. If there were something that upset her I would do my best to fix it , for us and our future together . Maybe she doesn't feel the same.
Smoking weed in my opinion isn't bad at all, it should not be illegal, I smoked it for 4 years, but I could go weeks without it easily, I never sold it, and I have never done any other drug, booze and tobacco are far worse for you... by the way I have stopped smoking it for a year now because I'm planning to join the military and I don't miss it.
Just as there are social drinkers... or even heavy drinkers and problem drinkers-- none of which are alcoholic... so are there social pot smokers. I've even met social cigarette smokers who exhibit practically no evidence of being addicted whatsoever. This is a good example of that and in many ways I agree with Hewitt's viewpoint with the exception of how harmless he is portraying it. Look into that further and I think you'll find its been well researched that weed takes its toll, albeit a different one than tobacco or booze, with prolonged use.Quote:
Originally Posted by Hewitt
Man I'd ditch pot, gettin' high iit's just not good.Quote:
Originally Posted by tttg
OK, valinors sorrow maybe I was portraying it a little too harmless, I agree with that... but it isn't as dangerous as some people would have us believe, but yeah, you're comments are spot on.
No, Hewitt, it's not. Let me reflect for a moment
On the way to school the other day, in my carpool, one of the girls was talking about the relationship she used to have with her parents. She had everything she desired physical, psychological, and material. Oh, yeah, her parents smoked pot.
It has been 10 years since her marriage to her soul mate (they do NOT smoke pot) and 10 years since she has seen her parents. The drug did not satisfy them anymore. They have moved on to harder drugs. Her sister followed in her parents footsteps. Her brother followed in her parents footsteps. "Sally" was the only one to see the harm in the drug and has a home, a business, beautiful children, and a great life ahead of her in nursing.
Much more than the rest of her family has because it all started with pot.
K well all you guys are making it either making it sound bad or making it sound good! How ambny of you actually smoked pot? Not to many I'm guessing. My point is dotn judge it just by what people have told you! I used to smoke it a lot, but I was never atticted and I only did it as a social kind of thing not all the time! And he didn't say how much she smoked or how many times a day/week/ or month so really it isn't all that bad but it isn't good! It can release stress and if you want to do it do if not don't and ask her why she does it and if it is just social don't even worry about it!
I'm actually wrong do it trying new stuff is cool (especially weed) Love Chronic
Do not do it, listen to that vocie in your head that is telling you no that vocie is always right. Stay doing what you are doing. Nobody needs drugs to be cooler or funnier you are fine and don't do it. Pot leads to other things no matter what anybody tells you I am 26 years old I am not old but am not young and have seen it all. Listen I would not lie stay away.
I have never done any drugs but most of my friends and neighbors are addicted to drug(s).
It is different for different people. Some of my friends say that it makes them paranoid.
Some of them do crack or heroin instead. Many of my friends ask me, "Well, wouldn't you rather I smoke pot than drink or do other drugs?" That is a redundant irrelevant question because it isn't a pot vs drinking or other drugs because most of them D0 pot AND something else. Most of them are alcoholics. I have know of a few people through the years that 0NLY smoked pot. Then many of them are on prescription meds. Mostly for mental health and they wonder why they have seizures, racing heart or irregular heart beat, etc... It never dawns on them it is from mixing their meds with their illegal drugs and drinking.
Also you can start liking it and then end up being a slave to it. It isn't always that easy for a person to quit. Some people say it is a gateway drug because they want a 'bigger' high and go on to other harder drugs. That is true for some but not everybody, but how do you know it won't be you?
As Myecee said listen to your head (conscience). Most of the people I know say they admire that I never followed the crowd and did drugs. They say that makes me a unique individual that thinks for themselves.
Don't let anyone push you into it. The Department of Justice of the United States has determined that if you engage in this behavior, then you are a terrible person.Quote:
Originally Posted by tttg
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