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  • Apr 30, 2007, 12:45 AM
    curlybenswife
    Well I just hope they they can live with thereselves after what the said to me they aren't going anywhere near heaven that's for sure.
  • Apr 30, 2007, 12:50 AM
    Allheart
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by curlybenswife
    Well i just hope they they can live with thereselves after what the said to me they arent going anywhere near heaven thats for sure.

    I love you Laura. Bunches.
  • Apr 30, 2007, 05:12 AM
    Synnen
    Wow... I missed something major, I think.
  • Apr 30, 2007, 06:42 AM
    Synnen
    Well, I've only been here for 40 minutes, and have already managed 3 emergencies and one screw-up (I screwed up Friday, and it's messed EVERYONE up for today), so... ugh... ulcer!

    I really am going to start looking for a new job, because this is just more than I can handle.
  • Apr 30, 2007, 06:49 AM
    curlybenswife
    Nah it was all done I'm pm's by myself it was the odd ball that battered me with reddies from three accounts aren't people just lovely lol.

    How is your Monday shaping up syn?

    Oh my word syn slow down you might explode :( lots of hugs sweety xxxx
  • Apr 30, 2007, 01:13 PM
    Rina _4
    We are all in the same boat.
  • Apr 30, 2007, 10:39 PM
    Nora2
    To Curlybenswife,

    Quote:

    Originally Posted by curlybenswife
    Oh the anger ive just been given a reddy by some jumped up lil newby that thinks its a we not a him/her im not sure there all there

    Hello I work in the same office as Supercarman and 2 others that you got banned also. I saw the message you sent to supercarman about you getting "pissed off" and you calling them "newbys" etc just because they disagreed with you. Several of us at the office couldn't believe how this unfolded and how you continue to have anyone that logs on that claims to know supercarman banned.
    I guess you may get me banned too. (co-workers here are placing bets) We are all watching here and finding this hard to believe.

    You say that "im not sure there all there" then you get all their messages deleted and get them banned. Is that how you treat people who are different then you? We sure hope you treat your rodent thing better. This whole thing has became quite the event to talk about in the lunch room lately.

    Supercarman never did anything wrong. After their posts were getting deleted moments after making then someone else here suggested they reply shortly after because it was noticed that posts with comments were not deleted as frequently.

    I thought I would write something. Others were saying ideas like just write in the rank comment area because they don't get erased and another person was saying It would be funny to post the whole thing somewhere on the web as all the old messages are still stored in the computers here on the network. I said they already got booted already so its my turn. Am I getting banned now too?
  • May 1, 2007, 01:00 AM
    chippers
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Nora2
    To Curlybenswife,



    Hello I work in the same office as Supercarman and 2 others that you got banned also. I saw the message you sent to supercarman about you getting "pissed off" and you calling them "newbys" etc just because they disagreed with you. Several of us at the office couldn't believe how this unfolded and how you continue to have anyone that logs on that claims to know supercarman banned.
    I guess you may get me banned too. (co-workers here are placing bets) We are all watching here and finding this hard to believe.

    You say that "im not sure there all there" then you get all their messages deleted and get them banned. Is that how you treat people who are different then you? We sure hope you treat your rodent thing better. This whole thing has became quite the event to talk about in the lunch room lately.

    Supercarman never did anything wrong. After their posts were getting deleted moments after making then someone else here suggested they reply shortly after because it was noticed that posts with comments were not deleted as frequently.

    I thought I would write something. Others were saying ideas like just write in the rank comment area because they dont get erased and another person was saying It would be funny to post the whole thing somewhere on the web as all the old messages are still stored in the computers here on the network. I said they already got booted already so its my turn. Am I getting banned now too?


    If you and your co-workers are doing this on company computers and company time, then were taking bets on how soon you get fired. Bosses do monitor employees computer uses.
    People come here looking for advice and this type of spiteful retoric only hurts our efforts in helping them. People come here with real issues and real problems. We try to give advice without being judgemental or blame placing.
    If you're taking bets on how soon you'll get banned then maybe were wasting your time. Because we have other things to do here than worry about your little bet.
  • May 1, 2007, 01:22 AM
    curlybenswife
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Nora2
    To Curlybenswife,



    Hello I work in the same office as Supercarman and 2 others that you got banned also. I saw the message you sent to supercarman about you getting "pissed off" and you calling them "newbys" etc just because they disagreed with you. Several of us at the office couldn't believe how this unfolded and how you continue to have anyone that logs on that claims to know supercarman banned.
    I guess you may get me banned too. (co-workers here are placing bets) We are all watching here and finding this hard to believe.

    You say that "im not sure there all there" then you get all their messages deleted and get them banned. Is that how you treat people who are different then you? We sure hope you treat your rodent thing better. This whole thing has became quite the event to talk about in the lunch room lately.

    Supercarman never did anything wrong. After their posts were getting deleted moments after making then someone else here suggested they reply shortly after because it was noticed that posts with comments were not deleted as frequently.

    I thought I would write something. Others were saying ideas like just write in the rank comment area because they dont get erased and another person was saying It would be funny to post the whole thing somewhere on the web as all the old messages are still stored in the computers here on the network. I said they already got booted already so its my turn. Am I getting banned now too?

    Right firstly the ranks can be deleted if we remove the posts you rated but I've requested all be left this is making you look a lot worse than me.

    Secondly what is this problem with me?? I haven't had anyone banned I don't complain to admin I don't have to they can see with there own eyes that you are basically bullying me.

    Thirdly fill me with red sqaures they don't mean anything people only need read my reply to see it is the red comment that is wrong.
    Ive had enough of your sillyness your making me sick to the stomuch it upsets me greatly to think you have nothing better to do with your time.
  • May 1, 2007, 02:34 AM
    chippers
    Like I said, we try to help people here as well as getting help ourselves. Intentionally bullying someone is not only wrong but sets a bad example as to what this great site is about. People see one person being bullied like this.(and I take it you really don't know this kind sweet person your unleashing your spiteful wrath on, otherwise you wouldn't do it) No, we don't always agree with what's being said but that's life in the usa and uk, we can agree to disagree.
    I think you need to do a lot of growing up and effect a huge atitude change or you will get banned. Cbw might not ask for it but I garuntee the rest of us will. Were here for a purpose. Just because you didn't like the responses doesn't give you the right to attack someone for her posts. Do us all a favor and come back when you've grown up and developed more appropriate manners. If anything you owe someone I consider a great friend an apology. Not to mention the web site itself.
    We don't allow bullying on or off the computer.
  • May 2, 2007, 06:27 AM
    mariaeyre
    Hi there, I am a new member to the site but I can give you advice on this matter as I am trying to stop smoking as well. This is the first attempt in 31 years of not smoking and for the first two months not too bad. I have had to have help with the patches which I must say are brilliant - there is no way I could go cold turkey and I personally believe if you cease something your body is used to instantly then you will react more. The third month is more difficult for me, I have had a couple of cigs here and there - I admit complacency has taken a hold and I have to pull myself back from it but in the short space of time I have noticed my house smells nicer, my hair does not smell, my teeth and gums will benefit and I have not smoked 1460 fags in the time I have stopped. Some people say I have failed because I gave in a few times and had one but 1460 cigs I would have smoked is not failure to me. Get the patches they do work. One day at a time that's all you have if you can do 24 hours, start again 2moro with 24 hours. Trust me it will work and I do not plan on being a smoker again and roll on 1st July so the temptation is away from me in public places. Maria
  • May 2, 2007, 06:55 AM
    curlybenswife
    Wow thank you Maria that was really good to read and I wish you the best of luck sweety with staying smokeless lots of huge hugs to you xxxx
  • May 2, 2007, 08:53 AM
    brazygirl08
    How did everyone do with quitting? I tried to read the whole post and WOW too long! :)
  • May 2, 2007, 08:54 AM
    Synnen
    I'm still smoke free!

    4 months and 2 days!

    (someone PLEASE pass me a cigarette!)
  • May 2, 2007, 08:59 AM
    Rina _4
    More power to any one that stays smoke free...
  • May 2, 2007, 09:02 AM
    curlybenswife
    Hehehehehe I fell off the top branch a while back but now we have decided to try for little person no2 its time for me to get back up there and stay smoke free and healthy but its not going to be easy :D
  • May 2, 2007, 09:08 AM
    brazygirl08
    Well my fiancé and I smoke too... wish we could quit. We have been smoking a little over a year. I am almost 21. I just know it would be hard, we tried twice... I know your pain!
  • May 2, 2007, 09:14 AM
    Synnen
    I smoked for over 10 years. I want a cigarette every single day. Usually every hour.

    I just want to not disappoint my husband more.

    You have to find a reason important enough for you. Seriously... if you don't have a good reason not to go back, you will every time.
  • May 2, 2007, 09:19 AM
    curlybenswife
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by brazygirl08
    Well my fiance and I smoke too... wish we could quit. We have been smoking a little over a year. I am almost 21. I just know it would be hard, we tried twice.... I know your pain!!

    I started smoking when I was 21 and hell I curse myself daily for doing so what a stupid mistake to make gggrrrr.
    If you really want to do it you will but its no easy feet that's for sure.
  • May 2, 2007, 09:26 AM
    spea94
    Good Luck Lady's!

    I hope you stop that bad habit! I do not have that problem but my BF is recovering, it's a struggle but you are women you can do it!!

    My step dad chewed tobacco and he chew on licorice root... and flavored tooth picks... ( I love the tooth picks) just a thought!

    Good luck!!
  • May 2, 2007, 11:53 AM
    Allheart
    Thanks to CBW, Chippers, Synnen and Joe - oh and Chantix (the medicine), I've stopped for 3 months now.

    I am so in love with cigarettes. They are my best friend. I miss them. I hate them. I want one... BUT I refuse to go back.

    I hope all of you that want to stop, I hope it happens for you. You really have to want it.
    But if you are not ready, we still love you anyway.

    It's hard as heck - just makes me so mad at the nicotene companies, cause I swear they do this to all of us on purpose. I heard they lace the cigarettes with a more addictive ingredient that keeps smokers hooked. HOW DARE THEY. So when you want to smoke, just think about that!!

    We can do this! All of us together.
  • May 2, 2007, 01:06 PM
    Rina _4
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by mariaeyre
    Hi there, I am a new member to the site but I can give you advice on this matter as I am trying to stop smoking as well. This is the first attempt in 31 years of not smoking and for the first two months not too bad. I have had to have help with the patches which I must say are brilliant - there is no way I could go cold turkey and I personally believe if you cease something your body is used to instantly then you will react more. The third month is more difficult for me, I have had a couple of cigs here and there - I admit complacency has taken a hold and I have to pull myself back from it but in the short space of time I have noticed my house smells nicer, my hair does not smell, my teeth and gums will benefit and I have not smoked 1460 fags in the time I have stopped. Some people say I have failed because I gave in a few times and had one but 1460 cigs I would have smoked is not failure to me. Get the patches they do work. One day at a time thats all you have if you can do 24 hours, start again 2moro with 24 hours. Trust me it will work and I do not plan on being a smoker again and roll on 1st July so the temptation is away from me in public places. Maria

    Is your picture a cat or another animal?
  • May 2, 2007, 01:07 PM
    spea94
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Rina _4
    Is your picture a cat or another animal?


    I think it's a bunny! :p
  • May 2, 2007, 01:18 PM
    curlybenswife
    Its most definitely a bunny is name is harry :D we adopted him two weeks ago
  • May 2, 2007, 01:24 PM
    spea94
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by curlybenswife
    Its most definately a bunny is name is harry :D we adopted him two weeks ago


    congrats!!
    Harry is cute!!

    My daughter wanted a bunny but they said its not good to have bunny with young kids.. so we got cats =)
  • May 2, 2007, 01:33 PM
    curlybenswife
    Hehehehehehe we got both ;) two cats that live indoors and a bunny our daughter is 19 months and loves him to death she has to go out to see him three times a day.
  • May 2, 2007, 01:43 PM
    spea94
    How sweet!

    Now my daughter (6) wants a Dog... she changes her mind daily! My son (4) doesn't care! He loves cars, trucks and trains...

    Kids are so wonderful!
  • May 2, 2007, 01:47 PM
    Rina _4
    [QUOTE=curlybenswife]Its most definitely a bunny is name is harry :D we adopted him two weeks ago[/QUOTE
    I meant the picture of Mariaeyre, it looks like a black cat with yellow eyes.
  • May 2, 2007, 02:05 PM
    curlybenswife
    Oooooo that's a cat isn't it sweet I didn't see that before :D
  • May 2, 2007, 06:15 PM
    Rina _4
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by curlybenswife
    oooooo thats a cat isnt it sweet i didnt see that before :D


    Yes, she is so cute. I love cats... mine is grey and white and her name is Kayla, Loosinda, Bassoon and Bassooni. Bassoon means cat in the Arabic language.
  • May 2, 2007, 06:28 PM
    lilkittenx2
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by curlybenswife
    Well i havent had a cigi since 8am this morning it was the last one now ive tried on numerous occasions to quit smoking and im just not flipping strong enough to do it i always cave in.
    Now i know theres no easy way to do this and i have to admit boy am i feeling dizzy and funny but i can't give in i need to do this for millie not just for myself.

    So is there anyone out there with any words of wisdom and dont what ever you do lecture me on whats in a cigi it wont do a thing the women at the clinic tried that and i just laughed and said look i already have arsonic in me so thats really not gonna scare me into stopping. I want support not a telling off after all im an adult not a pubescent teen.

    Thank in advance hugs

    Laura

    You can do it> My mom was able to do it. She has not had a cigirette in like almost a yr and 1/2. Im so proud. She did it for me too not just for her. Sometimes you may feel like you can't do it anymore. Then just think about who and why your doing it. Then think about something else. You'll forget about it. Sometimes the days go by slow. But when you don't think about it it goes by so much faster. And you will feel better too. And also the reason why my mom qiut was she got a liver cancer. So she had like she really had to do it. Im not trying to scare you with the cancer cause cancer runs in my family with women. But anyway. Just not think about it and think about what positive things may come out of quitting. :)
  • May 2, 2007, 08:52 PM
    chippers
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Synnen
    I'm still smoke free!

    4 months and 2 days!

    (someone PLEASE pass me a cigarette!)


    I'll send you a cig and a match in a glass tube. That'll read in case of emergencies, break glass.
    I'm still hanging in there with 3 cans of caffienated soda. Mostly diet except for morning. I drink it in a coffee cup and fool the moms at the school bus stop. Hehehe.
    My waist line is widdling down a little. I can breathe when I get in my car again.
    Hehe chippers:cool:

    Well fellow goddesses, (those who have joined us lately, rina, spea, kitten maria. If I missed anyone, forgive me.
    I have a conffession to make. During the past month, I had a few cigs. Not many just a few. Dealing with my Mom's passing and helping out dad giving her clothes to charity, I fell off the branch and hit everyone on the way down.
    So, I'm back to square one and I'm not worried. I got the gum and I'm doing pretty good. I'll be back up soon enough.
    By the way all you cat lovers, you're in good company here. We all pretty much have them. Mine are chips, tom,snuggles,
    Tori, sparks, and pru.
    Cbw, I'm sorry I missed your post about person #2. I am so happy for you. Kids are wonderful and I'm sure Millie will just love being the 'big sister". Hawee will pass around Hershey bars. Can't pass cigars beings we're quitting smoking.
  • May 3, 2007, 01:39 AM
    curlybenswife
    Giggle we have lots of practicing to do before no2 is made ;) but there's no harm in trying right?

    My isn't today is 7 cigs all day I'm gradually cutting it down I'm not rushing it when I get to 5 then ill go back to clinic and aggravate the women there giggle.

    Hope everyone has a great day xxxxxxxxxx love to you all xxxxxxxxxxx
  • May 3, 2007, 02:03 AM
    Allheart
    Awww chippers - don't you dare be hard on yourself. Special hugs to our favorite gal.

    CBW - Remember Practice Practice Practice... and Practice again ;)
    Whatever number you are aiming for - Only put that number in the pack. Okay? Now, if you kept all of the rest of us on the top branch, surely you can get your arse up here!!


    Special hugs and love to one and all.
  • May 3, 2007, 02:33 AM
    curlybenswife
    Giggle me and chippers are sat on this lower branch laughing at you and sin you really should 'nt wear skirts while sat on that branch tee hee we can see your undies chuckle
  • May 3, 2007, 02:57 AM
    Allheart
    Um - giggle if you must Miss CBW, but Synn and I have met the nicest of gentlemen while sitting up here in our little dresses. They wanted to "rescue" us :). Here's a picture of them and if you get your arse up here, we can introduce to each of them.


    http://www.joe-ks.com/archives_may2002/FindTheDogs.jpg
  • May 3, 2007, 03:01 AM
    curlybenswife
    LOL I kind of like the dogs better ;) giggle I have my own firemen you know my landlord is one giggle and all the guys he has do work here are also firemen tee hee
  • May 3, 2007, 03:05 AM
    Allheart
    What dogs... LOL :)
  • May 3, 2007, 03:15 AM
    mariaeyre
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Rina _4
    Is your picture a cat or another animal?

    Rina

    I always use pictures of cats so it will change everyday - I am waiting to get an image of myself but to be honest I find the cat pictures and funny dog pictures more amusing than me. I will let you be the judge when I put my face there.
  • May 3, 2007, 05:03 AM
    Synnen
    There were dogs in that picture?

    *looks again*

    I'm sorry... I just can't see them!

    I need to print that picture out and keep it at my desk as a reminder to not smoke.

    Yesterday wasn't so bad, but the last couple weeks have been as hard as the first week was. I want to cry and beat things up and I'm wondering again why I quit.

    Hold in there, ladies. If you leave me up here alone, I'll start crying.

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