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Originally Posted by JustLaw

He is also on high blood pressure medicine.

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One doesn't combine drugs with alcohol. It's deadly.

Here's a bit from netdoctor.co.uk --

When should I be worried if I have an alcohol problem?

There are a number of pointers that should lead you to consider if you have an alcohol problem. These include:

* using alcohol to try to escape from your worries and troubles.
* using alcohol to help you sleep.
* if you drink every day.
* if you are drinking more than the recommended units a week.
* if having a drink starts being one of the most important things in your life.
* if you are regularly drinking alone.
* if people are advising you to cut down the amount you drink.
* if you get annoyed by people criticising your drinking.
* if you feel guilty about drinking.
* if you need a drink in the morning to be able to face the world.
* if you feel shaky in the morning after drinking heavily.
* if you have periods when you were drinking that you cannot recall.
* if you have ever had problems at work because of drink.
* if you have ever been arrested or charged with any drink-related offence.

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Originally Posted by J_9

Have to spread the love Kity, but my cousin was killed by a drunk driver who was only driving home from the "corner bar."

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I'm sorry J. That must really hurt. There two young ladies from our neighboring county killed last year by a guy who had three DUI's and was driving on a revoked license. It makes me sick!

So basically he is a "nice" drunk who thinks that he drive "fine".

Someone needs to hide his keys.

People are killed every day by "fine" drivers who have "trouble sleeping".

He's a drunk driver.

Hopefully, he will get help soon.

Justlaw, Are you willing to take this on?

I'm so confused right now... I don't know what to think.

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Originally Posted by J_9

Have to spread the love Kity, but my cousin was killed by a drunk driver who was only driving home from the "corner bar."

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Bet the dd never got a scratch!

What is confusing, he drinks too much, does not admit it,

Common signs, if he admitted it and would "know" he had a problem he would be trying to stop.

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Originally Posted by JustLaw

I'm so confused right now.....I don't know what to think.

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Take the advice of the people on this site. Some of the best advice you will ever get. Every person on here will tell you what you need to hear, not what they think you want to hear. I'm sorry but you can get help for him and if he's willing who knows?

That's not what I am confused about. I don't know what to do or what to say. I can't believe I didn't see this before.

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Originally Posted by JustLaw

That's not what I am confused about. I don't know what to do or what to say. I can't believe I didn't see this before.

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You know what, you came on this forum and asked for help and that shows you are concerned. That's a start. You are not a bad person. I believe we all see things in people we love that we don't want to face. But you are facing them. Ask him about AA and if you have too, insist on it.

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Originally Posted by Kitkat22

Ask him about AA and if you have too, insist on it.

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But remember, HE has to be the one who wants to attend meetings. You can't force him to go. YOU for sure go to Al-Anon, or even just an open AA meeting. At least once.

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

But remember, HE has to be the one who wants to attend meetings. You can't force him to go. YOU for sure go to Al-Anon, or even just an open AA meeting. At least once.

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You always say the right thing WG.

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Originally Posted by Kitkat22

You always say the right thing WG.

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I spent three years in grad school and nearly $20,000 so I could. :)

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

I spent three years in grad school and nearly $20,000 so I could. :)

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And you always say it well. You got your moneys worth. :D:D

I am looking up info for Alanon

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Originally Posted by JustLaw

I am looking up info for Alanon

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Good for you. But as Wondergirl stated it has to be his choice. Good luck!

I meant the support group for me.

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Originally Posted by JustLaw

I meant the support group for me.

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You will be in my prayers and I think it's wonderful you are getting some help for yourself.. Please let all of us know how you are doing. Good Luck and God Bless! :):)

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Originally Posted by JustLaw

I meant the support group for me.

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Wonderful! You will learn coping skills and begin to understand what is happening to him physically, emotionally, and spiritually.

You know we will be here for you.

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Originally Posted by JustLaw

I meant the support group for me.

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Good luck, girl, get him pulled through if you love him a lot.

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