I know its only been a short time but jr is doing real good.his att has changed,been more open and talking,(instead of fightin).sat is our 1st year aniv,never thought we would make it.stephanie

Good to hear. I hope he can stick to it, that would be great. Congrats on the anniversary

Thanks I hope he can stick with it to,so far so good,we went out for dinner and he didn't ask for a beer he drank tea,I had 2 beers didn't seem to bother him,maybe this time its for real,thank you (on our anniversary).next 10 years will be better.
Stephanie

It might be wise for you to refrain from alcohol intake around him. Any addiction especially very strong ones don't just go away, so I'm sure it couldn't have been easy for him to watch you drinking during this time that he is trying to shake the addiction. It will still be very tempting for him, especially when he is around it, whether it shows or not.

I would recommend Alanon for you to gain insight into his behaviour, and learn about alcoholism, and the role you play in his recovery. Alanon is for the partners of alcholics and will open your eyes as to what you must do. Go alone, for yourself to learn how to deal with this disease.

Hello buggage,
I have ask him if it bothers him for me to drink in front of him,he says no,which I know it has to bother him, but he feels like it helps him gets strong.I don't do it like he drank,every day all day. He said if anyone should ask him for a drink,he would get up and leave.I have seen a different side of him,(like this side).just like when we got to together for the first time.just a winderful man!
STEPHANIE

That's what he says, is that what he does? ALL drunks are very good people until they cross that line. Only he can decide where the line is, so YOU should educate yourself through Al-anon, or you cannot be part of the solution.

I agree with talaniman. And I think even though he says it doesn't bother him, I don't know how it couldn't. I don't know about it making him stronger, I think it will have the opposite effect... its up to you to be the strong one and resist drinking in front of him. Its like wavying temptation under his nose.. I would think you giving up alcohol with him would be a great support method.but that's just my opinion