When does an addiction become an addiction? I'm 24 and my boyfriend will be 23, he looks at porn behind my back. I have told him that I would join in so he didn't have to hide it from me but he said that would be weird. It makes me feel bad and we don't have sex as often as I would like. It's strange to me that he would pick porn over me (or that's how I feel). We've been together 6 years and I know he's not cheating on me, but in a way he is. I guess I don't know if I'm looking for advice or an answer to why I'm not as appealing anymore. I just want to know why this happens and what I can do to help him and us. I keep thinking that I should cancel our internet, but I think that's the wrong approach.