Originally Posted by jennyclaire
hi. i am nearly 21 years old and for over two years now, I have been sore and had burning when I wee, all before I even started in the relationship I am in. It was in a way copeable but gradually it has got worse and now I am very very seriously depressed and it's ruining my life. I have missed out on the important years that you go out and have a laugh with your mates. It is sore all the time, as if I am sitting on kinifes and have lots of cuts. The sore area is just inside my vagina in the opening. It gets brought on more when I wee and I can very rarely have sex with my fiance which is upsetting me so much because I have not been sleeping around like other people my age and I have got all this pain and trouble. I developed a urinary infection in december 06 for the first time, around a year after i started to get sore.
Then I had another one just before I went on holiday, in July 2007. Since the last one the problem has not got any better, it still feels like I have an infection and that its never gone, girls that know what urinary infections feel like, I hope you can understand how bad I feel all the time. I have had about three or four tests that have come back saying i have no sti's or female problems like cystitis, and i no longer have a urinary tract infection. my doctor is uselsss and really doesnt listen so it took a long time to get referred to a specialist at the hospital.
Again i explain it all to them but they say things like, oh well there's no infection and it looks fine. because i go to the toilet quite a lot, they did a test that shows them how my bladder works and they have said i probably have an overactive bladder. i am now on tablets and the amount i wee has sort of improved but the soreness hasnt got better at all. i have a camera test that will look at my urinary tract and bladder, but i just can't see them doing enough to actually find out about the soreness, they just seem to want to diagnose something and leave it. but there is no way i can, its so painful, that i can't work, i have lost friends, i can't enjoy a life with my fiance, i can't look at starting a family etc.
i just dont know what more i can do and what the hell it could be. what can i do to make my doctors help me and listen because they say its not life threatning but its controlled my life for years now and it might sound pathetic but if i can't sort it out i will have to end it with my fiance and top myself or something, there's just no way i can live with it. i have done everything to reduce it being sore like not using soap near the area or tight clothing, but it hasn't worked. I just sit in bed trying to grasp the pain. If anyone has advice about what it could be and how I can get the doctors to listen, I'd really appreciate it. And please no mentions that it is an infection because it definately isn't!
Jen