How do I get my ex boyfriend to come back to me, or is it just pointless to even try?
My ex and I have dated for 3 years and been engaged for 2 of those years. At the time we also lived together and things were going so well until I found out that I was going to have to move to NC by the end of that year because of my job. And that he was going to move back home with his mother in Philly to help her take care of some financial issues she was having. Well things between us started to get rocky and were were arguing a lot. He told me that he was going to live with his mother just long enough for her to get on her feet and then he will be joining me in NC, but as time went by we argued even more. It got to a point that we didn't know who were were to each other. Later on I learned that he was cheating on with someone else wife and she knew me. He admitted to what he had done and told me that he was confused about things and that he needed some time just to clear his head of thing. He told me that he loves me and wants nothing more then to one day have me as his wife, but he need some time to get his self together in order to be the man that I need him to be. I didn't want for us to break up, but I felt that I need some time too. More than anything I wanted to work through our issues, and even seek out couples counseling. But he didn't want that. We have now been broken up for a year, and still kept in touch sometimes everyday and sometimes every week. He still tells me that he loves me and misses me and that he will always be in my life regardless of what happens or if we end up with someone else. And he will tell me that if we never get back together then he hopes that we will always remain friends. During the time apart we both an dated other people. But the more I date other people, the more I realize just how much I still love him and want to be with him. I thought that by now I would have gotten over him, but in this case absent has made my heart grow fonder. Apart of me wants to move on, and a part of me wants to wait for him to come back, but it has been a year. When we talk, I would ask him "is friend all we are ever going to be or are we going to be more then that again?" He always tell me the same thing, and that is "he does know yet or can't answer my question." I went to see him 2 weeks ago, because I needed to know if there was going to be a chance that we could start over fresh or just keep things like they are. We had a wonder full time and he was impress by the way that I looked and carried myself. He told me over and over that he still loves me and a part of him wants to come back to be with me, but a part of him is not ready. And when he decide that he is ready to get married then he still wants me for a wife. But as far as a relationship goes, he is just not ready right now. So I didn't say anything else about it. After I got home, he called a few times just to check on me. And now a few days has past and I haven't heard anything from him and he is not answering my calls or emails. Can someone please help me out here with some advice. How do I get my ex back, or is it just pointless to even try to get him back? :(