Married at the courthouse - then still have BIG wedding?
My daughter who is 22 decided to get married at the courthouse (May 11) all of a sudden. She never told me or my family and I found out the next day when we went to take her out to dinner for her birthday that they had gotten married the day before at 10:00 in the morning. Now her grandparents knew, her aunt & uncle (on her dad's side)knew and her new mother-in-law were all in attendance. And I find out the very next day after they all went out and partied with their friends and started telling people all about it when they were originally not going to tell anyone because they supposedly did it for insurance purposes.
Once she dropped the bomb on me and told me, I was crushed to say the least. She even lied to her dad and everyone there and told them that I wanted nothing to do with it so I wouldn't go to the courthouse. Not true... When she finally called me and apologized for not telling me about it and for lying aout it to everyone, I felt a little better but not much. I was still so hurt and totally crushed! Having said that I said well, now what? Are you going to have a small reception with family and friends in June or July? She said, "Oh no, we still want a big wedding (next May) with all the traditional things that you have at a wedding." I was floored... I wanted to die. How tacky is that? To invite people a year later and wear the traditional white gown, have bridesmaids, etc. etc. Am I wrong in feeling this way? She didn't care enough about anyone else to let them in on her secret wedding but she's going to invite them at what will be their one year anniversary to have the big 'ol bash and bring them a gift. She barely talks to me now and can't understand why I'm not calling her to go and try on dresses and what not. I'm soooooooo confused, can someone give me their thoughts on this??