What should I do when this happens? How do I let them know I’m uncomfortable?
In high school I was on a mostly guys sports team ( wrestling). So I’m friends with some of the guys and enjoy hanging out with them. The problem is they always have treated me like “one of the guys “ which is fine until I end up in a conversation about sex or dating or porn or how hot some girl is... and I’ve never done anything like that or even really dated and I’m a girl. I’m usually not the only girl when we hangout but usually the only other girls are their girlfriends. What should I do when this happens?
Usually I just stay quiet and try to tune out the conversation but sometimes one of the guys will say something like I bet ( me ) knows all about that , or imply I would be interested in that ,or ask my opinion .They know I’m sort of shy/ quiet ( so it’s sort of nice they are trying to include me in the conversation) and have never had a boyfriend or done anything like that so I know they mean it as a joke but it sometimes feels like they forgot I’m a girl and is uncomfortable because not only do I have nothing to contribute to the conversation I think of most of them as brothers so it’s awkward hear about them doing things like that.
Aside from when that happens I enjoy hanging out/ being friends with them ( this happens around 1 out of 3 times we hangout and is usually a short conversation) . Also I’m age 20 turning 21 this year the guys are the same age or 1 year older than me and we’ve known each other for around 10 years and been friends for around 6 years.