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  • Feb 12, 2013, 07:30 AM
    ironhyde
    My ex girlfriend wants to be friends
    My ex and I ended it a year and 4 months ago after a 6 year relationship and we have a 6 year old daughter. We were both to blame for the break up and we both met other people for a while after. Now we both single again and she wants to be friends, we have been hanging aout a lot, having dinners, school functions with my daughter and even a weekend away with her friends. I took her for dinner last night and everything is really cool with us. We have spoken about things and both said we have made mistakes, I have made it pretty clear that I would like to well, get back together, she just seems to want to friends. I don't know where this is going and I don't know what to look for. Am I waiting my time and is she just keeping me on a string. Some advice please
  • Feb 12, 2013, 10:24 AM
    imblogqueen
    Hi,
    Considering you'll have a kid together ad such an intense history behind you'll, of six years.. I'd say, even she's single and she definitely wants you back in her life too.
    What she means by saying that she wats to be friends now is this :
    She wants to get to know you closer since you'll have been apart for a while
    And she wants you'll to start afresh
    Why can't you be friends with her for a while? What is your hurry and issue?
    If you really love her and want to get back, also for your little baby, show her, while you are being friendly, that you will not hurt her again. Show her that you want this and how badly you want it.


    Don't stress. Go with the flow. Give her what she wants.
  • Feb 12, 2013, 10:33 AM
    Homegirl 50
    She is saying she wants to be able to interact for the sake of your child without any drama. Be friends with her with the understanding that you may not be a couple a again. If something more is to develop it will naturally.
  • Feb 12, 2013, 10:35 AM
    imblogqueen
    Home girl, you don't think she wants to get back?
  • Feb 12, 2013, 10:43 AM
    JudyKayTee
    Whatever happens you're not wasting your time if you are co-parenting for the sake of your child.

    I would look at it in just that way.
  • Feb 12, 2013, 10:48 AM
    Homegirl 50
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by imblogqueen View Post
    Home girl, you don't think she wants to get back?

    I don't know. Only she would know that and she may not know, but being on a friendly basis and co-parenting your child is a good thing. Let that be enough. If something else develops it will happen naturally.
  • Feb 12, 2013, 11:00 AM
    JudyKayTee
    I'mblogqueen - the concern should be the child, not the relationship.
  • Feb 12, 2013, 11:17 AM
    imblogqueen
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post
    I'mblogqueen - the concern should be the child, not the relationship.

    I fully agree with you judy
  • Feb 12, 2013, 11:25 AM
    ironhyde
    Thank you ladies, really appreciate the answers.
  • Feb 12, 2013, 12:11 PM
    Homegirl 50
    You're welcome

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