I am still in love with my ex of ten years, he only still want to have sex with me and personal favors from me. We also share two children together, so I still feel attached to him. He was my first love and I know he was mean to me in our relationship. A smart woman would have ending this along time ago for good.

He only uses you for sex and favors because you allow it , forget about him and don't succumb to his advances.

After a while he'll see it's a waste of time and your too smart to be used.

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Originally Posted by friend4u178
He only uses you for sex and favors because you allow it , forget about him and don't succumb to his advances.

After a while he'll see it's a waste of time and your too smart to be used.

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You said it best

My ex broke up with me and she used me knowing that I really wanted to be with her, she used my kindness for a weakness. I was trying so hard to get her to see how much I cared for her but she was using me because she knew I had a good heart. So I say to you I have been down that road and run the other way and find someone else to be with who will respect you.

I think we all have been used in this situation where one party wants the relationship more the other and we allow ourselves to be used. But that is the key, WE are allowing it. At some point you must decide that you love and care for yourself more then this person and as such you will treat yourself well. Part of treating yourself well is standing up for what's right by defending yourself.

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Originally Posted by lovlee

A smart woman would have ending this along time ago for good.

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So be a smart woman!

Time to be smart and act smart-and tell him that from now on the only contact you'll have is when he comes to pick up/return your children.

He is paying towards their upkeep I hope?!