My girlfriend broke up with me 2 dys before she left australia to go to Ohio as a camp instructor. We had been together for 18 months, and this trip is her dream, however part of the dream didn't include having a boyfriend -ie being able to hook up with whoever, whenever, so she split up. I know that she has used this time to be with other guys (at least one that I know of) and because we have broken up I'm mostly OK with this.

I think that one of the factors that made her split up is that she has just found religion and at the time she left, I wasn't really a fan of the whole thing, but now I'm not sure- I am more open to it. I still love her so much, and she says that she loves me and misses me too, but she still doesn't know if we are meant to be back together, and is all confused by being away, and not having me there.

I'm flying over to spend 2 weeks with her in the hope that she will remember, that what we had was special and that I'm worth it.

I suppose that I don't really have a great question to ask, my heart is hurting so so bad, I just want to know if you think that I have a chance or do you think that she has made up her mind.

Thank you in advance for any words of wisdom - simon

You are very articulate in your feelings for her. This must have been a great upheaval for both of you. I don't know if you have a chance and no one has crystal balls to tell us that. All you can do is carry on with your plans of visiting her and I think it is a good sign that she has agreed to see you. I am sure this will be a turning point in your relationship and I wish you all the best of luck in this.

It honestly could go both ways.. I'm rooting for you though. I think that maybe if you guys spend some quality time togehter it might re-kindle a flame, but this flame can burn big time. Just try bringing back memories in a subtle way, and treat her great.
Be cautious, and good luck:)

Why would she really want a 2 week affair with an ex? If your going back home, it makes no sense to commit to a long distance relationship, that she didn't want when she first left. I wouldn't hold out any hope of anything but a good friendly time as she has built a life for herself without you, and you really should do the same. Whose Idea is this trip anyway?

I don't like to be a naysayer, but it doesn't sound good to me. Actually I not sure I would invest all that time and money in travelling halfway around the world to be with someone who's obviously so ambivalent about the whole thing. You may want to add some extra activities to your itinerary so you trip doesn't turn out to be a total waste. I'm sorry but I think this girl has other fish to fry right now so I think it's time for you to move on.