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  • Feb 28, 2007, 09:39 AM
    RD07
    Girlfriend wants a break but I want her back.
    Hi, I've been going out with my girlfriend for almost 3 years now. I'm 18 and she's 17, last week she told me that her feelings are messed up and she doesn't know what to do? After that she told me she thinks it was best if we had a break for a while.

    Last year, she said the same thing but about a day after the "break" started she said she just doesn't see me as a boyfriend anymore and said it was over. This was the first time she'd broke up with me and it was completely unexpected so I reacted as I felt; calling her, asking her what was wrong. Why? What could I do to make things better? etc. After calling her a couple of times and begging I decided to leave it. A couple of days later howvere, she breaks down while she's with me and says she's sorry and she wants to go back out with me.

    It's been a year since then and last week she has come up with the same thing again. This being a few dfays before valentin'es day, she just said she doesn't feel the same as she used to... but didn't say she wanted a break or that she wanted to split up. This had happened before but I didn't want to behave like I did last time ad so I let her be, and it was only about a day before she text me saying she was sorry, that she was just worrying about me going to uni, but she loved me and she always would. We went out on valentin'es day and it was fantastic. We had a meal and then she came back to my place and stuff the week after she seeemed fine, talking more etc. But last week she said she's feeling weird again.

    The day after she told me at college, I just acted like friends, but when she gave me a hug I was a bit taken aback. That night I asked her about it and she said she felt like I might have needed one, putting up with her again. She also told me that the whole relationship thing was botherin her (I think that past week I was being way too clingy) and that she needs space to sort her head out.

    Since then she's agreed to go out with me a few times and just acted like friends. And between seeing her I haven't contacted her too much, but she has text me asking how I'm doing and I told her to stop worrying about me, that it was her feelings which needed sorting out before worrying about mine, and that was it really.

    The other day, I asked a mutual friend if she thought my girlfriend mite be cheating and she said no... and I believed her. My girlfriend has always been so insecure about me cheating on her, which I would never do, that I just don't believe she'd do it to me. But she found out about it and asked me why I thought she was cheating on me, and I explained I didn't I was just being a bit paranoid. But since then she hasn't contacted me. I've text her but got a one word answer and so thought well I'm not even going to try if your going to be like that and now we haven't seen each other or spoken in 2 days, which isn't long but it seems like it.

    I've read a posts just like this one on here and the most usual reply to get is just let her go and find someone else. But I don't want to do that. I love her so I will wait for her to decide. But in the meantime I'm not going to be waiting on her beck and call like last year. She's asked my friends how I'm doing and they have told her I'm doing just fine. I really want to continue going out with her, but I just don't know what her answer is going to be. What should I do in the meantime?
  • Feb 28, 2007, 01:57 PM
    becs6188
    It seems you have already decided your going to wait for her answer, all I can say is don't wait too long follow your heart, it will lead you in the right direction sooner or later.. good luck

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