Controlling, Untrusting Fiancé
Hello, I'm not even sure where to start and I want to be as honest as possible to get some insight from someone other then myself...
Ok, I've been with my fiancé for 2 years. I have a little girl who is 3 whom he is very good with.. unless he is mad at me, then he ignores her... its like he is on the same level as she is sometimes... and now I see I am already jumping subjects...
Ok, this all started in the beginning... he just questioned me all the time... ALL the time, like he was always trying to find a descrepancy in what I would say.. he did this for a few months and had me totally walking on egg shells around him... He constantly accused me of cheating or because I stayed friends with some guys he would say that I was messing around with them.. he did this until he was compleltely satisfied that I talked to no guys anymore... although I wouldn't say he's COMPLETELY satisfied because he still accuses me almost every day. As soon as one guy is no longer an issue, its someone new... and I don't just mean he asks if I cheat.. He flips out calling me a whore and that he knows I'm f***ing guys... and calls me every name in the book... I don't know why I have put up with it. I do love him but now I honestly feel stuck. He asked me to marry him pretty shortly after us being together and everything seemed so great then, as soon as I said yes he started to use that against me too.. any time I spend money I'm a gold digging... any time I have 5 minutes to myself without my daughter which rarely happens, I'm screwing someone. He always says nothing adds up that I say.. which I don't get... but if I say I'll be home in a "little bit" he decides what a little bit is.. usually 15 minutes and if I'm not home then its right back to accusing me... recently I went to the movies with some of my friends. All girls... which is a rarity to get to spend time with them... before the movie I was telling him how proud I was of him because he had been doing so good with trusting me.. (which I later realized is not normal to have to tell your mate) then he flipped out that night because he said I didn't let him know when the movie was over... but the movie wasn't even over.. he couldn't even give me the benefit of a doubt... He has a friend that he apparently thinks that the second we meet we'll mess around... well I've met him briefly but of course I didn't hardly even acknowledge him to save a fight... Well now he is always telling me he knows we are talking and messing around... The other day I was going to go to walmart and my boyfriend flipped out on me because he knew his friend was also going... like I should've known.. then he went on to say that me and his friend had it planned... again telling me all I am is a gold digging whore...
I know I am rambling but this is 2 years of craziness that I am now dealing with and I'm so confused and I don't know if this is truly just a man with a little bit of a trust issue or if its completley out of hand... I just need someone from the outside looking in to give me some imput... Please feel free to ask me whatever for clarification...
Oh... after being together for a few months I got a forward from my daughters husband on my phone... well I lied and told him it was from someone else... because I wanted to save a fight... well he saw the truth... I can honestly say this is the only time I felt I was deceitful and I regret it... but by that point I was walking on such egg shells and every fight was so extreme that I just wanted to save a fight just that once...