My boyfriend won't marry me ?
Please anyone with advice please help...
I have been with my boyfriend for 7 years and he won't marry me. I have talked to him about it for years and he sais that we will soon and then changes the subject.. After a few years of saying that he finally started saying that he is not ready because he feels like a child and that he is not ready to get married and plus the financial situation but that is just an excuse.
I feel very used and hurt but yet I continue to stay with him, I have become disgusted at him lately to the point where I don't even want to look at him. He sais that if I don't like it to leave and today I got very angry and I told him to leave and that I can't stand him and his attitude. I feel like I lost and waisted 7 years with him lying to me and using me the whole time but in the back of my mind I know that I should have left him a long time ago. When I told him to leave, he just took it like a joke and started watching TV..
This made my really angry that he just acts like he can use me and not take me serious when I asked him to leave. He said that when his program on TV went off then he would leave, he doesn't sound like he cared at all in the least or like I am not serious.
We do not have any kids in the seven years we have been together and I feel so used by him, I have watched my friends my age get married and have many kids and I want that too but I do feel that if I stay with him that I will never be happy. I am not happy and everyday I tell him my feelings and he just shrugs it off and doesn't care that I am hurting. He basically tells me to wait and he will marry me and to have patience but I keep thinking that will never come. I have left him once but he begged for me to come back and said that h would marry me soon but that was a few years ago, so I have been feeling this way for a while.
It is also embarressing when my family and friends ask me when am I going to get married and I just shrug my shoulders because I am speechless and my boyfriend will say soon.. But he has been saying soon to everyone who asks for the past 6 years.
I do feel like he is immature because he is 38 years old, he has no kids and has never been married and he can't save money very well. I want him to change in many ways but I am realizing that he won't and it would take a lot for him to change.
Please help...