My boyfriend is ready to have sex but I'm not sure I want to I really love him but I'm thinking of what ifs what happens if I get . I know about condoms but their not 100% protection I want to give myself to him but I'm not sure what to do yesterday we were sitting on his bed in his room and he asked me would you give yourself to me? All I had to say was when the time is right . He's says I don't want to push you or anything but I really want to get inside you. I would let him but I want to know how acurrat condoms are.:confused:

It is very good that you are questioning whether you are ready for such a major decision in your life.

Understand that there is NO perfect birth control. Condoms are not perfect, the pill is not perfect, etc.

Whenever you engage in intercourse, whether protected or not, you run the risk of pregnancy. It sounds in your post that you are not ready for motherhood yet, so it would be wise that you consider this decision deeply.

How long have you been dating this boy? How old are you? Now you don't have to answer these questions, this is just something to think of. Are you ready to share something so intimate with this boy? Something that you can never share with another person. Will you regret this decision when you meet your soul mate, your fiancé, the man you will be with forever?

Now, I am not saying that one must wait until marriage, but I am asking that you make a very informed decision as to whether the time, and the boy, is right for you.

Your right to wait since it is you who will have the baby, while he walks away.

When I asked my first girlfriend, her response was something I will remember the rest of my life. She said sure sounds like a great idea but first I have one small request. As the tension built an I became anxious to hear her "small" stipulation to what I was eager to provide. She replied, just have a short but detailed note signed an dated by my mothers approval of my request and you can read it to my father at dinner. I smiled and quickly understood how selfish my request was from an outside view. I know now that I was at the age where I purely acted on hormones and very little else. I can still hear my mom say to me when I committed some fundamental judgement of logic in the most idiotic way possible, " Will, common sense isnt that common is it?" Hated she was right so much, took me some time but the message finally sunk in. Reflecting back now after telling this part of my life it makes me feel very grateful, basically because the girl I was close to had not become a part of peer pressure an actually had enough brains for the both of us, mine definitely wasn't focused on any long term possibility of what could become a life long responsibility. That and several other life lessons were always presented to me in such comical ways, I am grateful today some clown was able detour me from the lions in the circus of life. I am far from one to say yes or no to your specific question. It is your life and you should enjoy all it has to adventure. I just wanted to share a part of my life and what I had to juggle in my hormonal teenage years. I was 15, for the record. I am qualified to put your dog back together if that might occur, that's about it. :)
Lastly, took a lot of courage and wisdom to even ask this question in the first place. Good luck!
Will

The most important things to keep I'm mind here are " how strongly you feel for this guy", " are u ready for a serious relationship wih him" and " (god forbid) should anything go wrong, will he be there to support you?". A girl needs to be mentally, emotionally and physically ready for sex. Don't take a hasty decision. Rest, J_9 has said it all. Best of luck girl.

I was in your shoes. Use a condom, Be on birth control. But most of all... don't have sex until your sure you want to. If he loves you he will understand. You will know when its right.

As a GUY let me speak for every MAN were always ready to have SEX! w/ any female. So don't let him tell you he's ready, because I'm always ready! Be patient if he loves you he will support your decision

You do what you feel in your heart is right. You will learn that if you have to ask about this to strangers that maybe it's not right. And don't rely on condoms, get some heavy duty chemical birth control or you'll get the shock that I did. Be a b.i.t.c.h.-- babe in total control of herself!Do what's in your heart (gut)! Much love, I feel your feelings.been there