Boyfriend wanting to go to a strip club
Hi, I'm 17 years old and I'm having a problem with my boyfriend wanting to go to a strip club. I'm glad to say that he's not 18 yet, but I feel once he is he's going to want to go to one. Ive heard him say that he wants to go just once to see what its like, and that still really bothers me just to know he wants to. It makes me feel that I must not be good enough for him if he feels a need to want to go.
My feelings towards everything is if he truly loves me and is happy with me then he woudnt have a need to want to go. Am I just over reacting over this? I know it's a phase some guys go through but is it normal for a guy to want to go when he tells you that he's only in love with u?
To me I see going to a strip club as cheating. So I'm really unsure right now. He's always telling me he loves me and that he sees a future with us together, but I question that now because if he wants to be with me then he should be happy with just seeing me and not other girls naked. I guess I'm just wondering if I should be as worried and upset over this as I am or if this is a normal phase he'll get over so I should just relax and let this happen. Id really appreciate any advise. Thanks
Is my perception different?
Is my perception of the strip club different?
Every dancer I've ever seen does a show that's about 10-15 minutes. In the first song, she mostly just dances around in her costume and I spend those minutes wondering who this girl is and what she does the other hours of the day when she's not on stage. In the second song, where she starts giving peeks at herself and starts peeling out of her costume, it's exciting to watch and I'm mostly thinking about her look and how she presents herself. During the last song, when she is mostly naked, I just have a big smile on my face. It's the same kind of happy smile I have when I see a celebrity I like. Repeat this three or four times, and then I am on my way.
I don't think I have "lust" in my heart when I see a girl dancing, and I certainly don't have any kind of torrid sexual illusion about how I'm her boyfriend for a night. I also most certainly don't equate a stripper with a hooker.
My handful of experiences have all been fun - the guys are good to hang out with, the music is good, the waitresses are friendly, and the dancers are professional (for lack of a better word).
And based on my own experiences, I have absolutely no problem with my wife going to an all male review - Even if they get to be a little more "touchy" with the entertainment.