Girl does not want a relationship now.any experts out there?
I met this grl a few weeks ago, she was or still is interested in me... We have been on about 4 dates, I put it on her to call me, she did, I'll call too but kept it short... one time I called her from my college and told her to pick me up and she did, I was mazed because I idnt even ask I just told her to, I told tell her to call me she would, I told tell her to come over she would...
Now the 1st kiss attempt: I went to kiss her and I pecked her den she pulled away in a good way I guess, den on IM I said I wasn't sorry she said just ask or tell her the next time... ok w/e... she came over a few days later we watched a movie , I went in for the slow kiss and she kissed me...
Now that same night I was typsy... dam that alcohol... so like a blabber mouth I asked her what do you want right now... she says she knows that she doesn't want a relationship right now... yea red flag... but that her mind might change, she doesn't know the future, I told her I'm not here to play games wit her and she says she doesn't know that yet, she doesn't know the future either... ok...
A few days later I call her to meet up wit me she says she's with her friends... ok...
Later on that day I call her again to come out so I can c her... she's wit her friends, and yea she was because I know them... ok I know when a grl wants to c u she will no matter what...
OK so I gave up... later on that night she calls me... I don't pick up... hellz no... then she calls again... and of course I pick up... she says she wants to c me "can i come up?"... I say well if you want to c me you can't come up wait for me downstairs... ok... we're downstairs in her car... now I go to kiss her(on some quick status not the slow approach I tried the other time) and I have a coffee candy in my mouth, she says no I dun like cofee... ok w/e... end of the night after we laughed talkd w.e.
That same night we agreed on going out next evening to a bar we went to on our second date, she asks if her big sister can come along, I'm like your going to bring your grandma also, she's like lol OK I won't take her, I'm like OK no bring her...
Next day she calls me like at 9pm and tells me if we are still going I tell her yes, then she tells me in spanish so her friend won't understand "is there a problem if i bring my friend also , she's sleeping over, or we can leave it for another day if u want", I'm like sure why not" but listen if u dun want to go let me know"... im already feeling weird...
Like at 10pm she calls me and tells me her sister isn't going anymore, basically she says she can't go either... ok now I feel stupid... I say w/e call me later(with a little attitude), she's like wait are you mad at me, I dun want you to be mad... I'm like naw call me later... she says OK...
NOW this was on wed, today's is Friday , no call yet, no IM(which is the way we met)... what do I do... im holding back on calling or IM'ing, I'm even leaving away messages like "at the movies.." or something like that so she knows I'm out on other stuff or dates...
What should I do if she calls, or IMs me, don't pick up? Call after she calls? How many times after she calls?
I like this girl, so I dun want to brush her away with me being needy and calling her even though she said she was going to call me and hasn't , and I dun want to brush her away by not calling and making her tink I dun care( she recently about a month got out of a relationship which she got played in, now she assures me she def. does not want to go back with the guy... hard to believe.. lol)..
What to do huh?