Not sure if he is the one anymore
I need your help. I am 28 & my b/f is 40. I have been dating my boyfriend of 3 years and lately I have been having doubts or better yet opened my eyes!
Here goes:
I was separated from my husband when I met my boyfriend.. Who was also married at the time? He helped me to divorce my husband, but unfortunately he stayed married. He explained to me that he never loved his wife of 17 yrs. He stayed with her because of the 3 children (1 being with a woman outside his marriage). He told me that since he came from a divorced home that he never wanted to make his kids go through that. So I went along with this for the 3 years. He has taken care of me 100% financially and is a great man except for the fact he hasn't left his wife, but has told me everyday for the last 3 years that he wants to marry me (literally everyday).
He just bought us a house which is nearing completion and I guess he will make his move to leave his wife and move into our new house... except now I am having doubts. I am almost fearful... He once tried to end it with me over me waking him up when he was trying to sleep and this has always been on my mind that he could end our relationship so quickly and the fact that I begged him to stay. I've never begged a man to stay. I've deep down lost my sense of stability and have corned myself by not having a job.. etc.
I love him but am fearful that once we move in together and I make a move similar to the one "of waking him when he was sleeping” he will threaten to leave me again. I guess I’ve lost my sense of stability. Also he says that I can have 1 child and that's it. I guess he's saying this because he already has 3. Either way, I’m horribly confused because I don’t' want to make a huge mistake.. Once was plenty enough...
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