I've been seeing a guy for 3 months and it has been great, we have a lot in common and enjoy spending time, talking and laughing together, basically, it has been great. However, just recently he seems to be cooling off, he doesn't contact me as often as he did. Nothing has changed as far as I can see.
He has explained that he doesn't want a heavy relationship, which is fine, I feel the same to a degree, as I broke up with my long term partner a few months ago. I have moved at his pace and left most of the arranging of dates to him. I think though that sometimes I'm too 'available' and accommodating but that is just me, I don't do it to win him over. We're both in our mid 30's and neither of us have been married or have children, but we have had our fair share of 'failed relationships'. Neither of us are very forthcoming with our feelings, but I think that is down to the fact that we are both wary. I really do like him, but am too scared to tell him in case I frighten him off!
We used to see each other once or twice a week, and be in contact most days and a couple of weeks ago we saw each other almost every day, but since then I haven't seen him. Again, I best explain, he is working away at the moment, so I understand I won't be able to see him as often as I'd like. However, I would expect some regular contact, like a text, e-mail or call, but they're just not happening. I have sent him a couple of messages - not too many - he always replies to my messages and they are very chatty and friendly, like they've always been, but he is not initiating the contact like he used to. Do you think this means he wants to end it? Or is he just going through a phase of wanting some space? If so - How long does this sort of phase last for? Anyway, I'd be glad to hear your opinions. Thanks for 'listening'