I have a boyfriend of 1 year. I met someone. And I cheated!
Okay, so based on my past questions, I'm sure most of you already know me. So I have been going out.. Or have been in a serious relationship with this really NICE guy for a year now. Lately, it has been getting pretty boring (sexually, mentally, etc). We have been fighting more often... Mainly because I keep seeing things in him that are starting to bug me so much. Things that were not such a big deal before - but now, it is really turning me off. (TAKE NOTE: I have been feeling this way even before I cheated) It's a little sensitive, but his family has some financial issues, and as the eldest son, he works and works to provide for his dad & 3 younger sisters. I found it very responsible and nice at first, but now that we're getting serious.. It's starting to really bug me since I do not foresee him to be able to save up for our marriage, our future house, etc at the rate he is going. He is forced to pay the electric bill, the house rent, food, etc because his dead beat Dad keeps spending money elsewhere (we still cannot figure out if the dad has a mistress on the side that he is supporting our what.) Anyway, for months, I have been trying my best to put everything at the back of my mind. I would always keep my mouth shut just so we would not fight about their financial situation and I know that it is a touchy subject. When he would ask me for advice, I tried to give him my 2 cents on the matter - on how I felt his family was abusing him. His two younger sisters already have job, but 90% of the bills/expenses come from my BF's hard earned money. IT'S too much already. They are literally mooching off him and depending on him for everything. I told him just that, but he got TOTALLY defensive. Ever since then I decided to shut up about it. About 2 months ago, I got re-located to another department, which is like 45 minutes away from my original office. Naturally, I was a new face (and may I say I am not at all ugly - or so guys tell me I'm pretty hot -- Hehehe.. Just so you guys get the picture).. So anyway, I was a pretty hot topic and head turner at my new office location. This one guy who I was told was "into me" and was asking about me - was introduced to me by one of new colleagues. This guys kept on trying to make conversation with me by saying "Wow you're doing OVERTIME again?".. But I kept ignoring him politely by saying: "Uh, yeah, I have to.." Eventually, the colleague that introduced us started to tease us PUBLICLY. It sort of got to me in a "high school crush" kind of way since this guy was my type. Please take note that I never cheated on my BF for a whole year. This new guy just knew how to push my buttons. The next thing I know, he was buying me lunch, bringing me snacks, helping me with some word processing stuff that was knew to me, etc. I eventually got to talking with him since we both smoke. We would always have our breaks together. I found out from a common friend that he has a 5 year GF, so I naturally avoided him, since I did not want to step on anyone's toes. He knew I had a BF too. So we just became cool, although, there was still A lot of chemistry and SEXUAL TENSION. We both knew we liked each other A lot A lot, but could not do anything about it. One smoke break -- after about a week of trying to JUST BE FRIENDS, we finally 'fessed up to each other's feelings. He told me he really enjoyed spending time with me, I felt the same way. I don't usually connect with guys that easy. I am very snobbish, especially when I know that guys are just trying to mack or hit on me. Anyway... In short... One thing led to another.. And now a month later.. We have both been cheating on our BF/GF. HELP! We are both in that stage where in we do not want to hurt all these people (GF/BF, GF/BF's family & friends) Too many people will get hurt. I guess on my end, I want to make sure he will be worth the risk. He is 5 years older than me by the way, I am 24 years old. My current boyfriend is 3 years older than me. What should I do?