Cheating boyfriend dumped me for his secret girl
My boyfriend and I have been together about a year. There was a period where we took a break for about month because he needed to see where his feelings were. During this time he was with a different girl and realized it wasn't working out and came back to me and I gave him a second chance. WE got back together and everything was fine. Then I found out he had been making contact with this girl again and hanging out with her. When I questioned him about it he said he just wanted closure with her. And I believed him. He told me all these things about her and how she is psycho and he would never go back with her because she is disgusting, etc, etc. Then out of nowhere, he broke up with me because he "needed to be single, and couldn't handle the committment" I didn't understand this because it was literally out of nowhere. He said the relationship stressed him out and told me not to think it was for another girl, and that our break up meant nothing for the girl he was with for a month briefly. I believed him, and thought that we needed to go our separate ways and he really just wanted to be single. A week later, a friend told me they had been hooking up while we were dating. I couldn't believe it and when I confronted him about it he denied it completely. For some reason, I still believed him because the girl he was supposedly hooking up with was notorious for lying and making things up. So the next week, they are all of a sudden together and all over each other in soon. I ask my ex to talk because I have some things to say to him and he flat out refuses to talk to me because he simply "doesn't want to" and he gave me attitude talking to me like I was dirt. This confused me so much because I didn't do anything wrong. I realized now that he definitely cheated because they got together so quickly. I am so disappointed in both of them and can't stop thinking about them being together and the fact that he said he needs to be single and not tied down to anyone. He lied to me so much and completely betrayed my trust and now he won't talk to me at all. He hasn't even talked to me about the situation and it hurts so much because I just want answers. I have so much anger and hatred for both of them and I don't understand how they can be together and not have any remorse about it and how they can rub it in my face by making out in front of me at school or wherever and not feel bad. They are obviously both selfish scumbags and I just don't know what to make of the situation or how to deal with it. It's all I think about. I'm going off to college in the fall but I want more than anything for him to apologize because he was really close to me and this is a huge lifestyle change for me. As much as I hate him, I want him to come to his senses and realize what he did. I'm most scared that he won't because that will just show that I meant nothing to him, and that hurts so much. Please help, I just need to see this all in a new light so I can move on. :(
Should I contact my ex? I'm scared
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I've gone out to a few parties since the break up and unfortunately he's been in attendance as well. His friends make it really uncomfortable and make awkward comments about us both being there. Last night I was at a party and I left a little early. I heard this morning that he went later on in the night and got extremely drunk and high among other things. He was throwing up excessively and ended up passing out and he wasn't moving and his eyes rolled to the back of his head. He was non responsive and every time he woke, he'd throw up more. He almost had to go to the hospital but someone called his parents to come pick him up. When I heard about this I got really scared. I obviously still care about him because those feelings just didn't disappear yet. Maybe it's a bad thing that I still care because I will just be setting myself up for disappointment because he doesn't care that I care but I am genuiniely concerned for his safety and I don't know if I should contact him just to see if he's okay. I don't know if it's a good idea because I've gone NC for 2 weeks but I really just want to know how he's doing after last night. Maybe if I don't contact him maybe one of his family members? Please help :(
Is this significant at all?
My ex who cheated on me and dumped me before I found out was at a friends house that I went to last week. As soon as I left to go somewhere else, he kept asking why I was going there and wanted to know what I was doing. We have not seen each other in a month and also haven't spoken in at least a month. He's been with the girl he cheated on me with. He also found out some other stuff about and how I have a life now and was talking to my friends and sounded a little jealous. The next night, I was hanging out in center of my town and he drove by me and beeped just to be an a**hole. The next night, he texted me at 3 in the morning saying "k u" We literally have not conversed for at least 6 weeks. I also found out that him and his new girl are always fighting and always on bad terms. I've ignored all this but I wanted to ask the people of this website if this is significant in any way, like why would he randomly text me? I haven't texted, called, talked to or done anything to him that is worthy of receiving a "k u" message. I'm a little bitter that him and her are fighting and on bad terms because I basically got screwed over for nothing. :( please enlighten me