Depressed over an ex girlfriend. Is NC needed?
Hello all.
Me and my ex girlfriend dated for a little under a year. I'm 29 and she is 32. At about the 6 month mark she told me she loved me and was falling in love with me. It put me in an awkward position because I wasn't close to there yet. It takes me longer to get to know someone before I can/tell them I love them or am in love with them.
She was a great girlfriend. Supportive, caring, loving, but for some reason I had in my mind that she just wanted anybody. She kept pictures up of her and her ex on her Facebook page and every post she made about him was almost the exact stuff she made about me...
I know worrying about that stuff is kind of dumb, but it made me feel like I'm no different.
It got to a point where I wasn't really attracted to her anymore and I didn't really want to do things with her anymore. That is when I broke things off.
She kept in contact almost EVERY week. Calling me or texting me. Seeing and asking how I was. I was polite and answered back. I met someone about a month later and we dated for about a month and things didn't work out. About a month ago my ex has been calling me more and texting more. I started to think, OK maybe I should give it another try.
So here's the problem... Over the past month we slept together twice. We went out on 2 dates. Sometimes she is VERY SWEET to me and I see the girl she use to be, but sometimes she is VERY rude and mean to me for no reason. We talked about getting back together and she said she's very confused. I find out on Monday that she is on Match.com.
I addressed this to her and she said she was, but hasn't met anyone and isn't talking to anybody and isn't really to date anyone. We went out 2 days ago for dinner and things went OK. We gave each other a small kiss goodbye and that was that.
I'm just so depressed and confused over this situation. Right when I'm about to forget her, she reaches out and gives me a sweet/kind text or phone call. Calls me handsome etc. I just don't know what to do. She's single and I know she's free to do what she wants, but I don't want to date her if she's dating around with other guys. If she's confused, dating me and other guys at once isn't going to help the situation.
What should I do?