She brings out the worst in me!
I joined this organization and made friends with an amazing woman and this friend of mine. We used to hang out together and we did have some real good time... as time flew, my best friend got married and got busy with her life. And I was getting over a bad breakup and trying to get a hold on my personal life too... that's when I got close to this friend as she helped me out to buck up those days... She'd tag me along wherever she goes and she'd insist me to stay at her place (she lives with her parents)... I am a very private person and I'd usually not stay at Any One's place no matter how close they are... but when this girl used to insist, I couldn't deny as I thought it would be better if I am not left alone those days and also because I didn't want to be impolite to her... but as days went by, I realized that I made a mistake... I got close to her parents and her sister... She wouldn't like that... She wanted me all by herself... and wouldn't like it even if I talk to her mom or talk from their point of view when she fights with them. She acts weird when am hanging out with other friends of mine and she would even judge them though she NEVER met them personally... Let me list out few points that made feel real uncomfortable with her:
1) If I don't pick her call, she calls continuously till I answer, or even try my land phone if am not answering my cell phone.
2) If I tell her that I've plans with my other friends, the same day she'll call me up making reasons that I should be meeting her ASAP as she needs my help.
3) Whenever we meet she makes it a point to nag on some incidents that went wrong weeks or years back and how rude I was to her.
4) She even hates it when I go for any activities without informing her and says if I would have informed her about it she could joined me too.. (well That's what am scared of!! I find myself running away from her)
5) If I ever ask help to her, she uses that chance to hit a conversation on how pathetic I'm to her and how I hit her personality in a negative way...
6) I help another girl in our office to get a make over done and she takes her out the VERY NEXT week to get a medical checkup done.
This woman has a big circle of friends and she behaves like this ONLY to me. I find it really emotionally exhausting to be with her... I find it totally weird that she nags about me all the time but still would want to hang out with me...
Yesterday she brought the worst in me... She offered help to ride my new vehicle till my home. The moment we went to a restaurant after that to have food, she starts on with her nagging scene about the way I treated her some weeks back... Neither do I remember the incident, nor do I remember how I made her feel... then I listen to her for 4 HOURS till I had to attend a class... I was getting late and I asked her to drop me back home.. She nags through out the way till I lose my patience and yell at her to SHUT UP!! So we reach home and then I drop the plan to go to class as I was emotionally stressed out. This woman comes to my room and uses that opportunity to nag more about me... I lose my mental balance, I yell at her to get out from my house and she doesn't. I SLAP her more than once and still she sits there denying to go... Finally when I went out of my room leaving her behind, she leaves to her home... and then her mom calls me asking what went wrong between us as she was crying through out the night... I feel real guilty about slapping her but what I don't understand is : Is she being kiddish? Or weird? Or is it that I don't know how to handle such situations? She's 4 years elder to me and am shocked to see her behaving like that...
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Yes... I feel guilty for that part too... Think I lost my cool completely by then... when I thought about it a bit later I felt ashamed of my action... anyway, like someone already said, its better to be away from such friends who could drive you nuts like that...