Husband cheated at his bachelor party... 10 yrs ago
Hi everyone. I am so sickened and disgusted right now and could really use some advice. I have been married to my husband for almost ten years and we have 2 children together. Our marriage is not without problems, but all in all I'd say we have a good marriage and we love each other. A few days ago (after I began questioning him about it), he confessed that the night of his bachelor party he cheated on me with a stripper he and his friends hired. I always thought he was hiding something from me about that night, so I've asked him to tell me many times since then, and he finally admitted to it. He told me that she performed oral sex on him while his friends were all there, in the same room. His friends even gave her extra money to do it.
I know it was 10 years ago, but I feel like it just happened yesterday. I feel betrayed, heartbroken, humiliated, and just devastated. I thought he was hiding something about that night, but I never thought it was something this big. I can't get over the fact that we were soon to be married and he did this. He is completely remorseful and cried with me about how ashamed and embarrassed he is about the whole thing and that all he ever wanted to do was put it out of his mind and never think about it again. He asked me to forgive him and said he has never cheated on me since we've been married, and I believe him. I believe he's a good man that made a terrible decision.
I really want to move forward in our marriage and forgive him, but the pain I feel is so gut-wrenching that I can't eat or stop crying or think about anything else. What would you do in my situation? How can I get past this and stop hurting so badly?