Mutual friend bringing up the past, insight appreciated.
Guys,
Im really confused and would appreciate some advice. I spent nearly a year in the company of
A young woman (26) getting to know her and her me. We spent a reasonable amount of time together
But nothing sexual. We are from different cultures so we discussed the issues surrounding a
Mixed relationship like adults. We've both been burnt in previous relationships and thought it
Would good to try and understand each other before diving into a 'proper relationship.' Anyway
It seemed to me we were both getting on really well so I decided to tell her I wanted to be more,
Than friends and wanted to take this to the next level.
When I told her this, she told me I had got the wrong impression! This was six months ago and believe,
Me I was really confused backed then and very hurt. When she told me this I took it on the chin and walked
Away. No drama, no stupid 'I love messages' etc etc. Moving on 6 months down the line a mutual friend contacted
Me for lunch. We met up and all he would talk about was her and made some exscuse's up she was under a lot of stress
At the time etc, etc.
Here's why Im confused, he also said she had started dating but didn't really want people to know, and when I said
That's great good luck to her, he said he wasn't exactly sure if she was or not and I didn't hear it from him. Im sure this
Sound really childish and stupid but why would he mention her after 6 months when he knows I haven't contacted her
Because I wanted to move on? He's not stupid, doesn't he realise I don't want to talk about her?
Any insight, advice appreciated.