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  • Oct 26, 2008, 09:18 PM
    marriaget
    Why.are teens like this?
    WHY, OH WHY are teens like this?

    Well, probably not al of them... but the one's I live around.

    Why don't these people appreciate what they have... like compare yourself to people...
    In lets say Africa... or other poor countries.
    Like.. they complain for the SMALLEST things... I mean it's normal.. "ugh I can't go out to the moviesss, I hate my mom!"
    That's okay, but sometimes it's just tooooo much.

    I know this girl who is in an extremely strict family, She hasn't watched TV in about 4 years. She cannot go out, she reads for fun all the time... no computer... A student.
    I think that's not good, you can't let you're kid out toooo much, and you can't let them stay in too much. Staying in a place a lot, can make you depressed. As my dad says "Too much of something, is no good." <- think about that.

    I mean, I'm a teen... I act like one... but I'm different,. better.
    I really think the kid has to do with how the parents are a little.
    My dad is a good guy, professor, Masters, doctorate graduate... Sister in the army... stepmom... mom is a pianist... a little family problems... but who doesn't have them.

    In school, I'm picking myself up, I have so many oportunities... and programs I'm in. (:
    Trying to get into a good HS.

    The kids here... probably 85% of my school, has low grades. Nobody wants to work for grades... and everybody is so "fake" and just liars... stupid people.

    I can never find a good friend, everybody wants to think about what they're doing.

    I know a boy, who is so smart, incredibly intelligent, and putting his knowledge to waste.

    Other people saying... "Oh ima fight him because he'z talken mad "... and he's dumb.
    Well... if he's so dumb, why do you want to fight him, if you don't care, why do you want to?
    Then they stay quiet.

    I can't take how the people are... and if any teens are like this and reading this... please think about this...

    And appreciate what you have... so many people have it SO much worse... you have no idea. Really.

    (: sorry for so much writing. :P I don't know if this was useful..
  • Oct 26, 2008, 09:36 PM
    aaj2008

    Because they are not mature and just want to be the "cool kid" or be hanging out in the "crowd"... thats all jr high and high school is to a lot of people.. hell it's the same way to some in college... just immature people.. some grow out of it.. some don't
  • Oct 27, 2008, 12:46 PM
    SimpleguyJoe

    I like to think that every teenager lives in a box. They don't see the outside world, they don't see others problems and most of them don't care. If nothing huge is happening to THEM inside their box the world is just fine and they will act as stupid, self centered, fake, and uncontrollable if they want.

    It will pretty much stay this way until these people get a clue about real life. Maybe something will happen emotionally, physically, just something to put the world into perspective for them.

    There is really nothing you can do but humor them. Also when trying to find good friends give them the benefit of the doubt because some people act this way on purpose because they don't want to feel excluded or different.

    Just don't let all this get to you. YOU have good grades, YOU have a more mature thinking process going on. YOU have a better future than most of them so just keep on pushing through. You will eventually find a good pack of friends if you look hard enough, just takes some time and some hit and miss.
  • Oct 27, 2008, 07:27 PM
    liz28

    It's good to see a youth thinking the way you do. I raise my daughter to think like this and show her how lucky she is. I make her shows about people from other parts of the world and how hard day to day life is. I make her work for her allowance and when she gets it, I show her how to save her money and not be so ran to spend it. I install in her life isn't easy so therefore you have to work hard. She only watch t.v on the weekend and schooling is very important.

    Again, it's good that your well rounded and focus but everyone isn't like that. You sound like someone on the right track. But still have some safe fun and enjoy your youth. Don't let others get to you.
  • Oct 28, 2008, 06:51 AM
    Bural21

    I'm 17 years old, and I have a great life. My schoolwork is just right, my social life is balanced with my steady relationship. I enjoy my time at home, while I love my time out. I don't complain, and I don't think I've ever once said something ending with: "I hate my Mom". A lot of people in this age group I think take a lot of things for granted. A good friend of mine doesn't have a lot of money, so when someone around him says, things like they're hungry let's buy a pizza he's so grateful for those little things. I don't get why so many kids in my age group are so rude and crude, and so immature. I understand where you are coming from Marriaget. It is all quite annoying.
  • Oct 28, 2008, 11:34 AM
    NallaNeedsYou

    All the girls lure the boys and then they boys scrap over the girls. The boys lure the girls and the girls scrap really badly over the boys. But they are boys and girls, not men and women and its hard to get away from the silly little mind games they play. Be happy with who you are, be happy you aren't like them and don't be scared to put your points of view across, unless your going to try and change someone immature, it will not work. They don't understand what it is like to respect the people around them and to be away from childish relationships. They are simply not ready to grow up and what makes it worse is that they are so envolved in a childish mentality that they think that you are the one that needs to grow up. It is sad but I think the only way they are going to find themselves is by losing themselves in despair and longing for a loved one. From the ashes of a childish relationship they have the chance to look beyond the vicious circle and see why its going wrong for them.

    We can only concentrate on ourselves and make sure we do good for ourselves without getting mixed up in the things that follow on from the vicious cycle of immature relationships. Drugs etc. I wish that I could help the people around me to become more mature and self-secure but I have asked and asked but no one can think of a way to help them. They must help themselves and we must help ourselves by being sure in our maturity and judgment.
  • Oct 28, 2008, 04:29 PM
    Rainbow0077

    They just want to be like everyone else. You have to be more outgoing and do the right thing, show them that being like everyone else isn't cool. Be the one who they look up to.
  • Oct 28, 2008, 06:20 PM
    theguywithnolife

    Because, Our Generation (Me being 16 in 4 months TODAY) doesn't understand how lucky they are. They think its cool to be stupid and not work, trust me in a couple years they'll learn.
    I also don't understand how kids at my school say how poor and ghetto they are when they walk around in $80 Air Jordans, a $40 jacket from "Street Stylez" and some other extremenly nice clothing.. l.
  • Oct 28, 2008, 06:36 PM
    Kati-Katt

    Okay I'll tell you why, because they are young and not always very attentive to things and are cranky and everyone goes through it. They're going through a lot of changes what do you expect them to be like? And was it very necessary to say all that I mean it sounded more like a complaining statement.
  • Oct 28, 2008, 10:04 PM
    marriaget
    thank you allllll<3
  • Nov 17, 2008, 09:33 PM
    Inu1234
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by SimpleguyJoe View Post
    I like to think that every teenager lives in a box. They dont see the outside world, they dont see others problems and most of them dont care. If nothing huge is happening to THEM inside their box the world is just fine and they will act as stupid, self centered, fake, and uncontrollable if they want.

    It will pretty much stay this way til these people get a clue about real life. Maybe something will happen emotionally, physically, just something to put the world into perspective for them.

    There is really nothing you can do but humor them. Also when trying to find good friends give them the benefit of the doubt because some people act this way on purpose because they dont want to feel excluded or different.

    Just dont let all this get to you. YOU have good grades, YOU have a more mature thinking process going on. YOU have a better future than most of them so just keep on pushin through. You will eventually find a good pack of friends if you look hard enough, just takes some time and some hit and miss.

    I agree with you. Though I don't think it makes her better just as it does not make me better. It's the way society is now how we have been taught to think. The idea of teenagers hasn't been around that long and well it's not a good thing I think it should go back to how it used to be where there was no *teen age years*. It's a problem of low standards low expectations it's a effect of not being let out to go get experience with life other than high school.
  • Nov 17, 2008, 09:44 PM
    rockerchick_682
    Well... yes. That's every teenager at one point or another. I'm not going to lie, at thirteen I was terrible. That's the point in our lives when we're trying to figure out what we really want. You're going to have to deal with the drama all the way through high school and part of college. Don't worry though, you won't be alone, there's always that group that cares about their education. Everyone grows out of it.

    You wouldn't believe how grateful I am to my parents now that I'm out on my own. I survived the drugs, sex and alcohol, but not everyone does. Try not to get caught up in all that cause you won't believe how available it is.

    Just focus on you and what you want to achieve.
  • Dec 2, 2008, 10:04 AM
    bitofanoddbod

    I totally understand what you mean
    Nobody appreciates what they've got anymore
    People do waste there talents all for an uncalled for purpose
    All what you said I believe is true , luckily where I come from we don't have many people who act like this but I have seen it and I've never acted like it
    I've seen my friends been persuaded by it and its quite sickening , mindless

    Its people like you , who know what there talking about , its nice to see your not some clone, well done for you ! Your going to do well in life, and you stick by what you believe in. :) nice to see someone else thinks the same
  • Jan 5, 2012, 07:59 PM
    helpwithlove123
    Teens really want to feel accepted by their friends. I know someone who gets everything they want and is really annoying, but I also know someone who's parents are really strict, and she is really shy. You need to have a balance of strict, and "slack".

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