I was with my ex boyfriend for 4 years. In all that time I never met his daughter (she was 5 when we started going out, she will be 10 this year). I really wanted to meet her as I thought it would be good for us to do stuff together. However, for some reason my ex never wanted me to, he said he didn't want her upset and that if she didn't like me then it would be even harder for him to have a relationship with me. I felt that without giving us either of the chance to meet he was depriving both of us of a possible good relationship, especially as I thought I would be with this guy for the rest of my life. I could understand him not rushing into us meeting at first but after at least a year I didn't think I was asking anything unreasonable, and I was kept a secret from his daughter.
It got too much for me and we split for a while, I thought I wasn't good enough. However we got back together after he promised things would change but they didn't and we only lasted another 9 months and we split up again over an argument about it. All my friends think it was odd that he didn't let me meet his daughter.
REcently I met someone else, who looks after me, loves me to bits (I think more than I love him, which isn't a good thing) but I can't stop thinking about my ex. We've swapped emails and he promises he'll call or we'll get together to talk things through but yet again nothing happens. I really don't want to hurt my current boyfriend, he is lovely but there is no sex at all and he is due to move abroad soon for good and I don't really want a long distance relationship. I don't want to cheat on my current boyfriend either but I miss sex.
I'm so cut up inside when I think about things. I wish this new relationship hadn't started but we sort of drifted into it and he looked after me when I was ill.