Hi there, I just discovered this website and wanted to ask if any other married man out there fantasizes about seeing his wife with another man or men?

I'm trying to find a reason for why I'm so turned on by it. My wife can't understand it. I've considered that it could be part of a man's secret desire to go out with a sexually confident/aggressive woman, like a porn star or stripper.

Thanks in advance for replies.

Not one of my things but there are guys that are. Far more than whose jealousy would ever let them go that far.

It's called the swing lifestyle. Or for those who are in it.. they just refer to it as the "lifestyle". Swinglifestyle.com is just one of many websites. Take a peek, you will find you are far from alone.

Most will not, there are a few that have all sorts of desires and beleifs.

After the initial excitement of newness wears off between two people, it is normal for men (and women) to have fantasies of all kinds involving their spouse... and not involving their spouses, either. :)

Fantasy does not mean that it will become a fact!

A fantasy is just that, something to dream about; some dreams can come true other can't. Think of the ramifications of your wife acting out this fantasy of yours, are you the jealous type? Will you really be able to cope with it after the event? Will she prefer the other man or men after she has fulfilled your fantasy, will the trust in your marriage be lost, dangerous grounds to tread!

You said, "I've considered that it could be part of a man's secret desire to go out with a sexually confident/aggressive woman, like a porn star or stripper". Well, why did you marry your wife, doesn't she fulfill your requirements? Hey, just a thought, what if it was her fantasy for you to have sex with two men?? Think about it that way.;)