Should I keep trying with my ex?
Ok, its abit complicated. I'm was with my ex for a very rocky five years. I deeply love him although I know it is going nowhere. We broke up previously and during this time he got a girl pregnant *Sarah. We tried again, and he broke up with my to try make it work with the *Sarah however he always came back to to try and make it work and continuous to do so. I am in University and have made a lot of friends of new friends. He didn't like this and regularly contacted me. I was with his quite recently and stead with him for the weekend. We had a great time but as he went to the shop, I looked through his messages and seen messages of Sarah saying she wanted to meet up and she still loved him. It hurt deeply and I admit I was very jealous. It hurt immensley as the said girl cause mahem in our relationship. I then asked him if he still loved me and he avoided the question and this has caused a huge argument. He kept saying it me over the weekend, in front of his family but I'm so confused now, and I wonder if it has anything to do with *Sarah. We have had an extremely rocky relationship which I will not elaborate on but I'm just enquiring does he still love me? If so why did he not say it to although this was over text message. After our arguemnt I said it didn't matter as I he treats me well but He said I was really annoying him and to stop. It's infuriating, the tables have turned. Usually it is him who is constantly bombarding me with messages etc. And know it is I. What should I do? Does he really care?
It's abit of an essay, but really needing advice. Should I keep trying with my ex?
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Hey guys, I'm going to try be pretty brief with my relationship with tyler, as if I into too much detail I would be here for year. A typical Romeo and Juliet with as much Drama in the equatian. Who ever said love was easy huuuh?Basically me & tyler where never destined to be together partly due to my social setting but also for various outher reasons. My family would disown me if they knew I continouned to talk to him. I'm currently in University but he isn't as career orientated, however as I'm got with him quite young, it wasn't as heavily prioritised in my mind so I was quite obvilious to it's importance.On the contrary my parents exremely disagreed. His family also have no time for me, which I find quite insulting, as I have never done anything wrong, but they are entiled to their opinions. I did however get paralytically drunk one night, and decided to ring tyler, it was after I found out he began dating Sarah( I will explain further) and called him very vulgar and offensive names but I was angry.It's amazing, when you break up with somebody you only remember their good points. I will be brutally honest, tyler was and is no angel. We were on a break and he met a girl, I met a guy. It was only suppose to be a break, but Sarah ended up getting pregnant. Me and Tyler got back together after many arguemnets BTU we loved each other as funny as it sounds. (Tyler had cheated on me before I won't lie not once or twice maybe more this was before our break. I know your thinking how can somebody cheat on you if they love you? And I ask myself that time and time again, he also regularly spoke disresectfully too me calling me AWFUL names and hurt me in more ways than you could ever imagine. I like to believe it was his environment if that makes sense. He didn't know better.It's the easiest way of thinking of it. Love is blind as they say. That was quite early on in our relationship I might add but it still doesn't justify what he did or make the hurt he cause any easier.I don't think it was as serious for him at the start as it was for me. This rebel guy, and a blonde school-girl not exactly a match made in heaven.) So as I was saying we got back together but he finished with me to get back with sarah before she had the kid, and it hurt like nothing I have ever experienced. I risked everything for him my family, school... But apparently I was suppose to have cheated on him it really killed him his brother told him? I would totally admit it now 3 years on but it is not true. There was a lot of anomosity between us, after he heard that so finished with me got with Sarah. It was a very tough and emotional time, a lot of tears, he knew I deserved better than what he could ever offer and it hurt but maybe he was right. Sarah was a girl that his family would have known she was immediately accepted and if anything wanted in the family.They had a beautiful baby girl. I never knew how Tyler felt about Sarah, and still to this day don't because he refused to talk about it, why do you think that is guys?During this time he never stopped calling or texting and after nearly 3 years together, it was difficult to say goodbye I justified talking to him in as many ways as I could unbeknownst to my friends of family. All the while I was heartbroken over what had happened, truly devastated. Till one day we decided we couldn't take it anymore and got back together. But as you know things didn't work out which I will take full blame for! We never stopped contact, and it is the most reasurring feeling knowing he is there. Never a day goes past where he doesn't ask how I am, or how my day went. Maybe its just comfort and security at this stage. Over I'd say the last half a year I got with a beautiful handsome guy studying medicine he was 'paper perfect' and I thought just maybe this work giving guys a chances.I made a lot of new friends, and I only met up with tyler maybe 3 times. I thought it was time to leave the past at bay and start afresh. It wasn't an easily made decision and with a heavy heart I ignored ty. Refusing his calls, deleting his messages it was devasting and I knew I was hurting him as he bombarded me with texts and calls. It was the right thing to do you know. For about a month or so this happened, and it was a lot easier than I had thought. Me and the guy I was seeing unfortunately didn't work but I was on a high. I heard though just 3 weeks ago his cousin died and I just wanted to see was he okay.so we got back in contact and he didn't question me over ignoring him and it was forgotten about. But just last week he suggested drinks as he does, and I said to bring a few people but he wanted just the too of us, I didn't think it was a good idea so it ended up me and a few of the guys. I ended up staying with him for the weekend, and we had an absolute great time and it just felt right being with him those old feelings I tried to bury resurfaced and here I was head over heals, infactuated, blissfully happen. Nothing else mattered if there sky fell I wouldn't have noticed or worse I wouldn't have cared. Whilst I was there, he went to the shop and I sat reading my book and decided to take a look at his messages as he left his phone behind. And there right in front of my eyes were messages from sarah saying how much she loved him and desperatly wanted to meet up. I was so annoyed but I didn't want to ruin anything or admit my nosyness so I just left it. But over the past week he has been so off with me, its scary. He hasn't been ignoring me but not contacting me as much. I asked him if he loved me and he avoided the question. Whilst over the weekend he said it to me and in front of his family. I'm as confussed as ever. Now it is me who is contacting him regurly. I don't understand like and he won't talk to me about which is so unusual. Sorry guys this is abit of an essay but I'm in tormoil and I need some advice ASAP.I can't even talk to my friends about it because they would kill me if they found out we still talked. Thanks guys :)