My 4 years long distance realionship with my girl friend seems to be over: advices?
Hello Everyone,
My girlfriend and I met in 2006 in Madrid, we fell in love quickly but there was time to be back to our coutries, we maintained a long distance relationship and it wasthe happiest moments in our lives to see each other every time and every time , we’ve been together physically a full time of one year and some months in the 3 and a half years and in different places. I visited her in her country many times, she visited me many times too.
My parents loved her, her parents loves me, it was just excellent.
I was and am planning to move together with her in a third country, I am actively searching a job in places where we can be together.Now she went to Bolivia in September 2009 for an internship, she kept an everyday contact with me until the 26th of January 2010.
When we met in Summer 2009:Knowing that she is 23 she said these things:
"I don’t want to take long term decisions, I am young.
When did we have the time to be a couple, it went too serious after a year or so.
What about my family, maybe I don’t wanna be faraway from them on the long term.
I am tired of making serious decisions I am young.
We broke up for one night in November 2009: the day after she called me saying: the love is too big, we cannot end it, it needs much more to do it.
26 th January 2010
I want to travel for some years.
It’s more exciting to live abroad.
I want to be in a country where they speak Spanish. ( I don't speak Spanish, she does)
You have never been here ( in BL) you don’t know what it is like (she means it’s fantastic to be there)
I found a man(about me) that I could be with my whole life, that’s f*** scary.
What is normal is that I am gonna end up in my country not in yours (we spoke about settling down in my country on the long term) .
I don’t know, I am confused.
I am frustrated, I need some love and care, I am tired of not finding you beside me.
I am tired of you not understanding what I am saying all the time.
I need a break from you."
No news from this day, I called her saying that we need to speak, she was not sensitive to my Call, she didn’t reply to my emails, where I specifically asked her to take a decision an tell me.
I am doubting she met someone, but she didn’t even speak to me about anything, how can she be so brutal , there was no official closure, what am I supposed to do knowing that I wish she will be back, We match and I saw her as the right one.
Waiting for your advices, thanks to all of u in advance.