Ask Me Help Desk - Signing over rights

My boyfriend has a child from this girl, she has put him on child support
But now he's considering signing over his paternal rights.
He has recently stopped working and can no longer pay child support. If he signs over his rights will he still be obligated to pay for child support or any back payment that he owes?

Kanidce

All signing over his rights will do will be that he cannot make decisions regarding the health and welfare of his child. The child he made. The child who cannot go out and work and put food in its mouth. That is what child support is for. Therefore, he will still be responsible for the monitary raising of his child.

I don't mean to sound harsh, but if this meant that he could rid himself of the monitary responsibility don't you think there would be a line a mile long at the courthouse. Every human wanting to relinquish their rights would be in that line.

So, yes, he will still be financially responsible.

I don't mean to be blunt... but I hope you are not sexually active with this "BOY" (that is what he is, a man would take care of his child!) because he will do the same thing to you if you get pregnant. Please don't think you are different. It amazes me how many "girlfriends" get on here asking questions about what will happen if their boyfriends sign over rights. If I was with a guy that didn't take care of his child I would run like the wind.

Yes he will still have to pay child support, normally ( and I say this since there are exceptions in some states) but normally you can sign all your visitation and custody rights away, but your OBLIGATION to pay child support is also regulated by the state, since if the baby ever receives welfare benefits the father has to repay the state in many cases up to the child support limits.

So unless the mother of the child remarries and the new husband wants to adopt, he will be paying child support no matter what.

Next I will go with ADW76, he is not much of a husband or boyfriend material if he is not willing to support and visit his child. Why would you possibly want to be dating such a dead beat, you could be the next victim with a baby he is not helping

I understand that the man should take care of his responsibility, but there are other circumstances to this. I know someone who made a big mistake with a woman who was taking birth control pills and stopped taking them to conceive on purpose, after knowing the man didn't want children. He even stepped up to take care of his responsibility(doesn't live with her, and is not with her), pays his child support, and sees his son every other weekend. (never missed a payment in 5 yrs). For the last 5 yrs the woman has done nothing but harrass him, call him names, smokes in the house (after the dr told her the child has allergies to cig smoke) and child needs allergy shots every week. She has made several attempts to get more money from domestic relations and has failed. He's not allowed to have any decision making in the kids life as to day care, doctors visits, nor anything else he's just supposed to pay and take the kid whenever she wants. You people are too quick to judge situations and too quick to blame men. There are some great men in this world and terrible women. This man has actually stepped up and is being treated like sh** from the mother for the past 5 yrs and has actually paid his child support and sees his son. The mother actually wants him to sign his rights away since she's remarried and he wants to relinquish his right. But she won't do it and it was her idea! She throws that up in his face every time she wants him to take his son and he can't, or has to work. So there are good men in this world don't be so quick to judge

Smrtcookie -

Thank you for posting what you did. I agree that there are deadbeat dads out there, but there are also some mom's who all they see are $ signs instead of what's best for the child. I feel so bad for the dads who try and do everything to fix a situation and the mom fights them at every turn. :(

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Originally Posted by Libragirl68

Smrtcookie -

Thank you for posting what you did. I agree that there are deadbeat dads out there, but there are also some mom's who all they see are $ signs instead of what's best for the child. I feel so bad for the dads who try and do everything to fix a situation and the mom fights them at every turn. :(

Libragirl, that post was almost four years ago. Do you really think SC is reading it?

AK Lawyer -

It doesn't matter if Smrtcookie reads it or not. I wanted to get my opinion out there on what she wrote. Maybe others will read it and not be so harsh on the dad's who are trying to do good for their kids, and the mom's are the actual deadbeats.