I love this guy and he loves me but he's with another girl who he likes
I'm 16 years old and the guy I love is 17. We've been friends for a bit and we "talked" for a while. I am his first love and the only girl he has ever said I love you too. He is the first guy I've truly loved and would do anything for. We talked on and off because I didn't know what I really wanted. But I realized it was him and we dated and we told each other EVERYTHING and ANYTHING and were totally comfortable around each other. But since then, I got grounded for a long time, like a veryyyyyyy long time. And he still wanted to date me though. But he decided it was too hard. I agreed. But even after we broke up, he told me how I was his first love, and only love and could see me in his future. We even talked about kids. He is now dating this girl who he has liked since freshmen year ( we are juniors now) but when I came along, he didn't talk to her anymore, because he was all "me". When we dated, I told him he could go to our spree dance with her because she asked him before. They didn't do anything, but there were still feelings. I love him with all my heart and he has changed me for the better, and I have changed him for good too. I want to be his friend, but it makes it so hard because I love him so much and I want to be with him. Should I just be his friend, and feel that hurt, or let it go and not talk to him anymore? And I don't know what to tell him.
Grounded for muchooo time for having sex?
All right I'm 16 and I am no longer a virgin
My parents practiced and preached to me for so long to stay a virgin until I graduate from high school. They told me that id be in a lottttt of trouble if they found out I have sex.
Well I've BEEN sexually active and I never thought that they would find out.
Well I was with this guy, and he was my boyfriend of really not too long. We "talked" for a while but really didn't know a tON about each other. It was definitely a big mistake to have sex, but an even bigger one to not use any form of protection.
Later after we were done, he texted me and said we should just be friends and work our way up. I was like, OK, I guess.
The next day I texted him and said "what if i am pregnant? :/"
He told me to get an abortion, I had to, or I would ruin his life and his chances off getting into the naval academy. I told him that we both made the decision to have sex and not use protection, so if I was pregnant, we had to take care of the consequences that come along with sex. He said if I was, and kept it, he would have the deepest hatred for me and that I was ignorant and naïve and was not fit to be a mother, especially because I couldn't "spell out complete words" in text messages. (bs) I told him abortion was wrong in my opinion and God wouldn't want me to do that. He believe in God, but told me that Mans interpretation of God was petty, and it isn't a real baby yet anyway. He told me to not text him until I knew if I was pregnant or not.
Usually I delete all of my texts but this time, I didn't. My stepdad, out of nowhere, takes my phone and goes through all of the texts. I started hypervenilating.
Basically my mom FLIPPPPPPPED out, broke a mirror, slapped me, yelled, screamed, cursed, and my stepdad did too. My stepdad is basically my real father, and they were so mad. They called the boy and told him if I was, he would have to help take care of it. And they told me that I'm probably going to be grounded until I graduate high school. (ima junior) and they took my phone, and turned it off, I can't do anyTHING, I go to school, the gym, and work. That's it. I'm basically under a microscope now. Plus my parents know anout most of my other hookups.
I think being grounded for this long is ridiculous, so does my sister, and my biological dad. I already did what I did, and keeping me locked up, isn't going to teach me anything!
I need people thoughts, because I think it is ridiculous