Abusive baby father threatens to take me to court should I get a restraining order?
My baby father has an alcohol problem and can not stay sober one day. I live with my parents. He is not on the birth certificate and we are not married. He will not come to my parents house to see our daughter (which is where I live with her). He never asks to see her he always asks to see me so I will drive over there and of course I will bring the baby but he never asks about her or anything! He is physically violent as well as verbally abusive to me. He just threatened me today that if I do not bring the baby over to his house on Saturday and drop her off while I work for 10 hours that he will get his mother to pay for him to go to court and get weekends because he has already told her that she can come on Saturday to see the baby with out asking me. I have never left my baby at his house without me there because he drinks. When he naps he sleeps through anything. Yes he says he has raised his 4 year old (5 next month) since he was a baby and his mom walked out on him but this is coming from a man who just told me last week that he lets his 4 year old son shoot a shot gun when they go fishing that use to belong to his now deceased father.. well weekends are when he drinks the most from sun up to sun down.
I just asked a question a couple weeks ago on here about what I should do about him hitting me and I have decided thanks to great advice I want him to leave me alone. He hits me in front of his 5 year old son and it's just really not a good environment for me or my baby. He has a criminal record of assault 2 times and theft. In the past if he hits me and doesn't manage to break my phone in the process of me trying to call the police when they show up he runs and hides in his neighbors house in the duplex he lives in, but I know where he is at and he runs because I remember him telling me if he gets one more domestic violence charge he will go to jail for 7 years. I did not follow through with the report downtown because I did not want to see his child get ripped from the only parent he has since his mother has took off to live in another state since he was 1 and a half and never wants to see him only for christmas never calls or anything. My baby father just makes me feel bad for the things he does because I really think he is a sociopath. He is trying to say now that I have a mental illness when really he is the one with the alcoholism I am just so fed up! Do I need to get a family lawyer to get advice? Should I go get a restraining order (which I should have done the last time he touched me)? I really do not care about child support I just want him to leave me alone. If I get a restraining order what rights will he have to my child if he tries to say I am keeping her from him? Because I always brought her over his place since she was born until recently when I realized how dumb I have been playing into his games. He knows he can come to my parents house but refuses because he knows my parents hate him which is funny because my parents have never once been rude to him but hell yes they hate him for what he has done to me! They hear about it every time I come home crying. He says his mother has been complaining that she wants to see our daughter, but I have talked to her on the phone and told her a month ago that she has my number and I am more then happy to make arrangement for her to see the baby but she also knows I do not live with her son. She knows he has a drinking problem. I let her know that he does not help me with our baby either. I think if she feels so bad that I won't drive 45 minutes to drop my baby off over to someone she does not know then she needs to make an effort to call me and make arrangements with me. I am the custodial parent, and his side of the family needs to stop calling him and talking to him about it and call me. Another thing is is it wise to take my daughter to her house and just drop her off when they could keep her and get a lawyer and hold her until the court date if they decide to try to get rights? Can that even happen? I am just freaking out thinking about all the what ifs and he is stressing me out with the threatening so please someone help me get a clear understanding of rights.. if possible thanks!