My boyfriend and I have been going out for a few weeks and he's saying "i love you" already. I don't mind that he's saying this and I know he's not intending on rushing things but I just don't know what to say to that. I like him so much and I think he's amazing but I don't want to say "i love you too" until I mean it with all my heart. Also, I don't want to reply "oh thats so sweet" because it sounds like I'm saying "thank you" and its also missing the 'i feel the same way about you' part. I just want to reasure him that I really like him and I'm so glad were going out. I've been trying to say how I feel but I don't think its really getting through to him. Help!

What do you say to that. You answered your own question within your question.

Speak to him. Tell him that you really do like him and that he is amazing. Tell him that you do not want to say that back until you mean it with all your heart.

Just going out for a few weeks and already saying it. That puts you in an awkward situation. It takes time and do not rush saying it if your not ready. Sorry but saying that he loves you is rushing on things. If you do not mind he is saying that well, that is up to you right?

Actions speak louder then words. How do you treat him, what do you say to him. If it is not getting through to him, maybe he is too focused on how he feels. Does this make sense?

I would add a caution. AS A MALE, I would be suspicious of boys saying such things so quickly. It's the kind of thing a guy knows a girl usually wants to hear before she's willing to "do more" in private with him.

I know you didn't suggest this was the case. I bring it up as a warning. Simply put, at this point I would believe it to be mildly manipulative.

Also, he may mean it, and that could still be manipulative. So, you're going to have to say something. If it were me, I'd rather hear "that's sweet, thank you for saying that" than nothing at all.

If he follows it with inquiries about why you don't say it back, "Oh, is that why you said it to me, to hear me say it back? Wow, that's not very nice. I thought you said it because you meant it."

From the very beginning why would you date someone whom you do not love (or not sure about it)? Why wait to date before love?? Would not it be more appropriate to do things in a logical order... (Keep it simple.. do not date before you are really in love) ?

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by Mr_am

From the very begining why would you date someone whom you do not love (or not sure about it)? Why wait to date before love ??? Would not it be more appropriate to do things in a logical order ...(Keep it simple .. do not date before you are realy in love) ?

---

You don't fall in love before you date someone, you fall in love with someone AFTER you start dating. How can you fall in love with someone before you really know them?

Love is means different things to different people. Saying ' I love you' is fine but it is the actions behind those words that matter.

Honestly I was just wondering the same thing I'm just telling my boyfrieds he's amazing and so cute, of course he's going to take it as I don't love him but if he asked I would tell him the truth that I like him so much but I don't want to say it if I don't mean it.. cause then when I do mean it, it means nothing