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Threatens to call police

I am a good mother, and I have proofs that I am. But my husband threatens me that he will call police. Because he wants divorce and want the custody of the baby , so. How should I tackel this if he calls the police. Also after divorce who gets the baby? My baby is 5 months old.

I'm sure most judges would put an infant with his/her mother.

If your husband doesn't have anything to call the police about in regards to you and the care of your child, then let him call. I'm sure the police will have a nice little chat with your husband and set his straight.

If they can not prove you are an unfit mother he will feel stupid
You can tell them he is purposely causing problems because he thinks he will get custody.
Also he runs the risk of the baby taken off both of you if the Child Services want to be unreasonable and make waves which I HAVE known them to do. After everything they put me and my kids through I wouldn't wish them on the worst parent(s)!
If he has any sense he will just get the divorce and file for joint custody and work it out in court.

Let's be practical here, please.

What else besides threatening you with a call to the police is your husband doing with or to you?

What happened to the loving husband that disappeared after only five months? When I became a dad, my son could float the TV remote in the tub and I would think that he might become a ship designer. The love of and for a child doesn't just dry up and blow away within 5 months.

There must be a lot more going on here then you feel comfortable writing about, which is okay.

However, if he threatens you or the infant with physical harm, pick up the baby and head for a Spousal Abuse Shelter as soon as it is safe for you to leave. The safety of the baby is your primary responsibility and to do that you must make sure that you yourself are safe.

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Originally Posted by myrights

... But my husband threatens me that he will call police. Because he wants divorce and want the custody of the baby , so. How should I tackel this if he calls the police. Also after divorce who gets the baby ?? my baby is 5 months old.

I have no doubt that you are a good mother, and you need to locate a family therapist or marriage counselor to help you with what sounds like abuse. You might get a referral at the county health department.

It is just threats and I would not worry about the police finding you unfit. Keep records of harassment. And don't worry my exhusband did this sort of thing for about 2 weeks after we split up, then he was gone. People do crazy things when they are mad or upset.

I would look into getting a lawyer and getting temporary custody set if a divorce is coming. Many people make these threats out of anger and to try and hurt or scare their spouse. Don't let it get to you. There is usually a parenting class when you get divorced, it is really helpful and informational. Every parent going through this can benefit from it.

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Originally Posted by jkh

i would look into getting a lawyer and getting temporary custody set if a divorce is coming. many people make these threats out of anger and to try and hurt or scare their spouse. dont let it get to you. there is usually a parenting class when you get divorced, it is really helpful and informational. every parent going through this can benefit from it.

The above is very good advise. Ask the operator for legal aid in your state. Document your calls and conversations. You ask " how to tackel if the police come" it could be a big deal if police are called to a domestic incident where an infant is present. A Court could ORDER you both to take parenting classes, for example. It is best that you show maturity and wisdom for your child's sake and defuse this situation ASAP; you and he get it through your heads, you have 17 years and 7 months more to deal with each other as two parents of one infant; take steps to protect that baby physically and emotionally! Don't fight with him in front of the poor little baby :( Last, asking "who gets the baby after the divorce." is not strategy for custody. How about, I love my baby, I want my baby, I would do anything for my baby, and leave no doubt you would EVER give up this baby at all for ANY REASON... that would be a lot better strategy :)

Also keep in mind... even if he would call the police.. the local child protective service in your area does an investigation and doesn't just "take the kid"... if it's found to be an unfounded claim of abuse, they do nothing, but if you know he filed it, he could be charged with filing a false police report which is a misdemeanor and could take him out of the home.

Hand him the phone and tell him the number is 911. What is he going to call them about, the police benefit party?
If you are not doing anything, when the police get there what will they find, you cooking supper?

So I will assume he is kicked out? Get your divorce and fill for custody, the court will decide who gets custody, and who will get visits, how much visits and more