Girlfriend of 5 Years Wants to see what else is out there?
Hey everyone, this is my situation. I am 23 and my girlfriend is 21. We are high-school sweethearts and have been through a lot together. We fell in love after about 6 months together. We are out first EVERYTHING, including the relationship. The way she came into my life was amazing. It was true love all along. She recently started to show sings of wanting to see what else it out there yet every time we confronted it she said that she wanted to stay with me. I have done Everything for this girl and care about her so much. The love we share is hard to find. It was the kind of love you only dream about. To this day, when we see each other we can't help but show affection and out hearts race. We went out to grab a coffee for the last time together after she told me she wanted to see what else is out there. Some say she is very into herself, she likes that finer things in life. That night we stared at each other and she started to cry. Told me how much she loves me but and misses me, but missing me will not change her mind. She doesn't want to regret not experiencing the single life to make sure there isn't something else for her. She called out relationship a routine, yet we changed it up all the time. She said it was too serious and that she misses that new feeling. I don't know what to do. Her birthday is coming up next week and she still wants to be my friend. That I can't do, I love her too much. If she pursues someone else, I would be crushed. I initialized the NO CALL a little while ago. I got my closure asking her Was it true love, and she said definitely. Then I asked, were you happy until the end, and she said yes. Im so confused but I know this has to happen. Please give me some advice. I hope time does not fade our feelings for one another. She is looking for that dream guy who I believe she has already found. I don't know if he will ever come back, I would like to think so but sometimes I think its over. Sounds like she wants to keep me there until she finds something else, I don't want to be that guy. Thanks for your time everyone.
Girlfriend of 5 years wants to see what else is out there
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Hey all,sorry this post is so long, I hope you read it, I really need some advice.
So my girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me about a week ago to see what else was out there. She felt as though our relationship was a routine and that she felt bogged down. To tell you the truth, I did everything for this girl. I treated her so well, and made sure I told her how much I love her every day. We are high school sweethearts. I am now 23 and she is 21 on Thursday. Last Friday we sat for a coffee for some closure. I asked her if it was true and she said yes. I asked her if she was happy until the end and she said yes. She started to cry and held my hands, told me how hard it was and that she wants to get back together but just didn't want to be back to the old routine. We are our first EVERYTHING and it means a lot. There is a connection there that is so strong, we get butterflies when we see each other still. Now that I haven't seen her for a week, she met somoene online! He added her on Facebook randomly and told her how beautiful she was, she fell into this trap and went to meet with him. She told her friends how she was seeing him now. How can she just throw away 5 years and feel comfortable after so long. She knows that our love is that once in a lifetime. We were so happy together and she told me just 2 weeks ago. I don't know anymore. She feels as though she can find something better because it is all she ever knows. I know that people say to move on and that you first love never lasts, but what if it can. Her parents were so close with me. Her life fit so perfectly into mine and vise versa. Im crushed right now. I respected her by waiting 2 years to become intimate. I can't believe she will not go and give that to someone else. Everyone, including her friends say that one day she will come running back, but Im trying so hard to move on because I don't want to feel like this every day. It makes me think everything she said about loving and missing me was garbage. It definitely hurts. I was sooo good to her, most of her friends envy what we had. The love was so strong and one day the passion left because she did not want to communicate. What does everyone think about this situation?? I feel as though time will just part us, and distant us, fading memories and feelings. Im afraid she will lose all feelings and become happy with this new individual. Well, that's my dilemma and I am scared to let go. We, including our parents thought we would get married. I still do, I just don't know what she is thinking. I told her I cannot talk to her anymore and that we would know whether the time is right to call or not. I told her I want her to be happy so that no matter what I will be that guy who always wanted her to happy. She met him the week after breakup and now it has been 12 days.
Girlfriend has a close guy friend, should I be worried?
So my girlfriend has a close guy friend who has a reputation of being a player. I know exactly what this guy wants. He talks to her about all of this problems, they talk on the phone and he always wants to see her. I trust her, not him, what should I do? I don't know much about her past, but honestly I'm afraid to ask because she always says it doesn't matter. Listen, Im a guy and I know what he's trying to do. I don't know if she's ever been with this guy but they have been friends for a while. And when she was single, she said she slept with her ex's when they called. I found that messed up and she got mad at me for gettting mad lol So am I over reacting to all of this, I just find it hard to trust her now even though she tells me she loves me and much more. Thanks!