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  • Apr 17, 2008, 12:41 PM
    WilliamJB
    May be a Dad, how to find out
    I broke up with my ex eight months ago and she recently gave birth. I have had no contact with her and only found out through friends. I suspect it may be mine. Is it Legal for her to simply put her live-in boyfriend's name as the father on the birth certificate without DNA proof that he is indeed the real Dad? Is there some way I can find out if its mine without her knowledge that I am inquiring?

    Any help would be so greatly appreciated.

    WJB
  • Apr 17, 2008, 06:18 PM
    KateBell88
    There's no way you can without her knowing. Remember if you push this and it is your kid then you will have to pay child support for the next 18yrs. And there's nothing to stop her putting whoever she wants on the birth certif. for all you know she cheated on you and it really isn't your kid
  • Apr 17, 2008, 06:25 PM
    ashley0716
    Yes I recommend you step lightly on this one. Ask yourself the following questions: Do I want to pursue a relationship with this child if he/she is mine? Am I financially able to take care of this child? Legally, she can put ANYONE she wants on the birth certificate. But that doesn't mean anything in a court of law unless you ACKNOWLEDGE that IS your kid. Good luck!
  • Apr 18, 2008, 09:49 AM
    lawanwadee
    Since you are not legally married, she has the right to anybody's or nobody's name on the baby's birth certificate. First of all, ask yourself what are you going to do if the baby is yours. If you are ready to take the responsibility in case the baby is yours, then you can file paternity suit.

    As the baby was born within 310 days from the date you broke up, there is possibility that the baby is yours. Go to the court.. procedures are not complicated, just a regular DNA test... you can do it yourself.
  • Apr 19, 2008, 09:13 AM
    babieface85
    Yes it is legal. If she and her boyfriend both think the baby is his, then they have the right to agree he fathered the child. It does not mean he fathered the child. I would think long and hard about a paternity suit. Do not rush. A legal DNA test is about 500 dollars.
  • Apr 19, 2008, 09:21 AM
    Fr_Chuck
    If you believe the child is yours, you can challenge this in court and ask for a DNA test

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