My adult daughter won't talk to me
Hi... I'm stressed as can be. My daughter who just graduated from college just moved home in May. She did it to save money before she plans to move to another state. However, she made my life and my teenage son's life miserable. (I'm a single mom). All I asked that she do is help keep the house clean because I work full time and she works part time as a server. She has been totally disrespectful since she moved home. Leaving the upstairs a disaster, the bathroom a disaster and NEVER cleaning. She takes naps in the evenings so she can go out to the clubs with her friends until 4 in the morning or so and then comes home (which of course wakes me up). There is much more, however I finally told her that I've never been treated with such disrespect in my life. She just rolled her eyes and wouldn't look at me. I told her I would appreciate it if she would move by the end of the month. She left the next day to go stay with her college roommate and her family and she tells my son she's staying there until she moves. She has emailed me twice to ask advice on job apps but other than that, no communication whatsoever. I've called and emailed and asked her to talk but she ignores those messages. Shall I give her time? I miss her... Did I do the wrong thing?
Not a matter of Right and Wrong
There are times in life; when a difficult decision has to be made for the better good; when we take action, let us not condemn ourselves for the action taken; otherwise, you will have to access, reaction vs action. Did you react to the situation, which will imply that you did not consider All; from what you have stated, as well as, drawing from experience... you took action. The fact that your daughter includes you in important decisions governing her life, i.e. job app... you have nothing to fret; release yourself from the underlining guilt of evicting your daughter to help her grow. Sometimes, a change in atmosphere will help growth, that is not to say that you provided her with a stunt-ing type atmosphere, it merely means, she needed the change to grow. Be secure in your decision, in the action you have taken... she will return to thank you when her perspective is challenged. Sometimes it takes viewing from a different angle to bring life into focus