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  • Nov 13, 2008, 12:03 AM
    Hazel1220
    Ben wa balls
    Hi there all! My question is:
    Where can I find some Ben Wa balls used for Kegal excersices? I had a baby 8 months ago and despite always priding myself on a tight @#$$$%, I know it couldn't hurt to get more toned. I do my Kegals everyday but just want a little more of a work out.
    A few years back I bought some online and they seemed rather small. How big are they supposed to be? These were like about the size of an average women's thumb nail. Is that right? Are there any other fun toys out there that I can use to enhance my tone? :cool:
  • Nov 13, 2008, 05:41 AM
    twinkiedooter

    Ben Wa balls are for pleasure only. I don't know where you get the idea that this will enhance your Kegal exercises. Your insides will get back to normal in due time. There is nothing short of time that will help you. Ben Wa balls do come in various sizes as well.
  • Nov 13, 2008, 11:48 AM
    Hazel1220

    Well I read up on them and I read some things that said they can and sometimes are used for Kegals by the women as she tries to hold them in place by clenching down on them.
    But I bet your right. How can one use Ben Wa balls during sex without them moving to far into the vagina so that they get "lost"?
  • Nov 13, 2008, 04:12 PM
    Choux

    I always meant to try the Japanese ben wa balls for solitary female masturbation, but I never did buy any.

    Seems like you could get them from an adult pleasure outlet.
  • Nov 13, 2008, 04:15 PM
    Hazel1220

    So you are just supposed to put them in there and then go at it? Don't they float up. Sorry I really have no idea. It's kind of funny, float up ha ha. What about during sex how does that work?
  • Nov 13, 2008, 04:28 PM
    Choux

    They are only for use in masturbation, all alone. The Japanese ladies wanting orgasms just sit quietly and enjoy the feelings they can generate by (I've never tried them as I said) gently flexing their muscles and rocking slowly.

    I don't know the specific masturbation techinique, as I said. Just remembering an ad I saw in the 1960's.. :D
  • Nov 13, 2008, 04:35 PM
    Hazel1220

    Wow that's kind of hot. I think I might have to try it out. Sounds fun but I think I might laugh myself to orgasm it sounds like it would tickle.
  • Nov 13, 2008, 04:36 PM
    TexasParent
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Hazel1220 View Post
    So you are just supposed to put them in there and then go at it? Don't they float up. Sorry I really have no idea. It's kind of funny, float up ha ha. What about during sex how does that work?

    If you put them inside they will stay in the quasi-open area between your vagina canal and your cervix/uterus. They will shift around as you move or squeeze the muscles. You are likley to stimulate your elusive G-Spot; but remember (I'm not sure the G-Spot and clitoris are related) your clitoris is about 4 inches long, but most of it is inside your body; so with the Ben Wa balls moving and pressing against your tissues it's likely that your internal clitoris will get some indirect stimulation.

    As for during sex, I think it would be painful for a male partner if he is banging against something solid unless he limits his penetration; also I don't like the idea if he doesn't find it painful that he will be pressing something solid against your cervix (I can't see how a bruised cervix will be fun, or healthy in the long term; although I think you should ask those women who can take porn penis and have no ill affects :eek:).

    If you and your partner want some fun along this same train of though, there is a vibrating remote controlled egg/bullet which you place inside you (although it has a cord that comes out to a receiver you hide) and your partner (or you can do it yourself if you don't have or don't want partner involved) has the transmitter which is wireless. So from a short distance away you or your partner can turn on the vibration with the slide of a switch.

    Be careful though, it's kind of noising even though it's inside you. So if you want to use it in public, be sure to not be too close to other people.

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    As for Kegal exercises; search for Kegal or Kegel on this forum, I know at least one person who posted a good link with regard to them. Sorry but I don't have time right now to find it, if you haven't by the time I return I will look it up and quote it here.
  • Nov 13, 2008, 04:56 PM
    Hazel1220

    Thanks texasparent. So how do you get them out if they are up there?
  • Nov 13, 2008, 05:33 PM
    TexasParent
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Hazel1220 View Post
    Thanks texasparent. so how do you get them out if they are up there?

    I think you need more expert advice on that since I am male... lol.

    Here is a link: Ben Wa Balls: The Truth
  • Nov 13, 2008, 09:30 PM
    Hazel1220

    Thanks that was very helpful.
  • Jan 13, 2009, 11:22 AM
    brownbagbabekim
    Ben wa Balls are used mainly now for the Kegal Excersises, but they were created to help tickle the G-spot and tease a woman. I am a romance party consultant and I sell these things and talk about them and use them ofter. They help with Bladder control also. If you have any more questions I would love to answer them for you.

    Kim
  • Jan 13, 2009, 02:11 PM
    susananne

    Actually.. they do work for tightening the wall.. my OBGYN suggested them... I loved mine.. it did stimulate me.. but that is all part of the tightening.. they come in varying sizes... Good Luck
  • Jan 13, 2009, 03:01 PM
    chrissymarie
    [QUOTE=TexasParent;1373239]

    If you and your partner want some fun along this same train of though, there is a vibrating remote controlled egg/bullet which you place inside you (although it has a cord that comes out to a receiver you hide) and your partner (or you can do it yourself if you don't have or don't want partner involved) has the transmitter which is wireless. So from a short distance away you or your partner can turn on the vibration with the slide of a switch.

    Be careful though, it's kind of noising even though it's inside you. So if you want to use it in public, be sure to not be too close to other people.
    [QUOTE]

    Egg/ bullets are intended for usage on the outside of the vagina on the clitoris.
  • Jan 13, 2009, 03:05 PM
    chrissymarie

    Ben wa balls are not used for kegal excersises which you probably know by now. They are usually about the size of a regualr chickens egg and very heavy. I have a pair and I personally find it extremely hard to orgasm from it. With all this new technology why would you want to revert to ancient ways? Stick with the modern play toys.
  • Jan 14, 2009, 10:06 AM
    TexasParent
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by chrissymarie View Post
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by TexasParent View Post

    If you and your partner want some fun along this same train of though, there is a vibrating remote controlled egg/bullet which you place inside you (although it has a cord that comes out to a receiver you hide) and your partner (or you can do it yourself if you don't have or don't want partner involved) has the transmitter which is wireless. So from a short distance away you or your partner can turn on the vibration with the slide of a switch.

    Be careful though, it's kind of noising even though it's inside you. So if you want to use it in public, be sure to not be too close to other people.

    Egg/ bullets are intended for usage on the outside of the vagina on the clitoris.

    You really should check your facts before you keep attacking me personally....

    No matter what type of an egg or a bullet vibrator you choose, you can use your sex toy in a variety of very enjoyable ways.

    Women use egg and bullet vibrators for vaginal and clitoral stimulation. For vaginal stimulation women insert an egg or a bullet into the vagina like a tampon for experiencing extremely enjoyable vaginal stimulation.

    Clitoral stimulation is provided through holding an egg or a bullet against the clitoris for receiving vibrations and getting enormous pleasure which results in strong clitoral orgasm.

    Both clitoral and vaginal stimulation can be a part of masturbation or partner sex. Enjoy this pleasure with or without a partner!

    Both men and women can use an egg or a bullet vibrator for extremely enjoyable anal stimulation as both male and female anus has plenty of nerve endings which are very sensitive to stimulation. Women experience pleasure if anal stimulation is combined with stimulation of other erogenous zones such as clitoris, nipples and others. Men enjoy anal stimulation combined with stimulation of penis and testicles.

    Men can use egg and bullet vibrators for very enjoyable penile and testicle stimulation which can be experienced during masturbation as well as partner sex.



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    chrissymarie disagrees: how can you give a woman adivce on how to orgasm and use masturbation products if your not a woman. You dont even know the difference between a clitoris and g-spot. Come on Texasparent... you dont have to answer every question.
    Thanks for the reddy...your personal attack is completely unwarranted.

    The OP thought my post based on my personal experiences was helpful, and if your read my next post I admitted I wasn't an expert because I was male and provided a link so she could decide for herself.

    I don't know what I've done to warrant a personal attack from you as I've seen you post in other threads about female masturbation where men answered and you had no criticism of them (I did not post in those threads).

    So please, if you have something against the way I post take it up with a moderator or PM me.
  • Jan 14, 2009, 10:16 AM
    chrissymarie
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by TexasParent View Post
    You really should check your facts before you keep attacking me personally....

    No matter what type of an egg or a bullet vibrator you choose, you can use your sex toy in a variety of very enjoyable ways.

    Women use egg and bullet vibrators for vaginal and clitoral stimulation. For vaginal stimulation women insert an egg or a bullet into the vagina like a tampon for experiencing extremely enjoyable vaginal stimulation.

    Clitoral stimulation is provided through holding an egg or a bullet against the clitoris for receiving vibrations and getting enormous pleasure which results in strong clitoral orgasm.

    Both clitoral and vaginal stimulation can be a part of masturbation or partner sex. Enjoy this pleasure with or without a partner!

    Both men and women can use an egg or a bullet vibrator for extremely enjoyable anal stimulation as both male and female anus has plenty of nerve endings which are very sensitive to stimulation. Women experience pleasure if anal stimulation is combined with stimulation of other erogenous zones such as clitoris, nipples and others. Men enjoy anal stimulation combined with stimulation of penis and testicles.

    Men can use egg and bullet vibrators for very enjoyable penile and testicle stimulation which can be experienced during masturbation as well as partner sex.





    The OP thought my post was helpful, and if your read my next post I admitted I wasn't an expert because I was male and provided a link so she could decide for herself.

    I don't know what I've done to warrant a personal attack from you as I've seen you post in other threads about female masturbation where men answered and you had no criticism of them (I did not post in those threads).

    So please, if you have something against the way I post take it up with a moderator or PM me.

    I do not have anything against you, I don't know you so that's not really possible. I just know your advice on this subject is not good, especially being a Pure Romance consultant. I am a person who is experienced with sex toys, sells and studies them I have never ever heard of a man being sexually stimulated by a egg or bullet. Like I said IT IS INTENDED FOR CLITORAL STIMULATION. You may use it which ever way you choose but that does not change the fact it is intended for clitoral stimulation
  • Jan 14, 2009, 10:17 AM
    kp2171
    Not dead center directly on topic, but tied to the subject...

    There once was a device called a Kegelmaster... think about a phallic shaped device that was cut down the middle lengthwise and had internal spings for tension... the idea was to insert it and then squeeze against the resistance... I think you could even adjust the tension with more springs. One lover bought it and tried it just for gits and shiggles. I had no "complaints" and shed had no problems... she just wanted to see if increasing pelvic wall strength changed things sexually.

    I would say that kegels did seem to change her ability to "grip" when she chose to flex, and it probably was an nice addition to sex for me... but it didn't change her sensations much and I think that she was more distracted than helped by having to think about flexing. She was just much better when she didn't have to think about what to do next and was able to lay back and release mentally.

    So a win for me and not so much for her, I guess. But that device did seem to help... now, would normal kegels have done the same? Don't know... but work against resistance does strengthen muscles beyond simple muscle contraction without resistance.

    http://www.kegelsrus.com/
  • Jan 14, 2009, 10:25 AM
    Synnen

    I see no issues with either Chrissy's original answers, nor do I see issues with TXParent's original answers.

    However---take arguing with each other to PMs. Everyone uses sex toys the way it works for them---and I've used an "egg" vibrator vaginally with GREAT success, personally.

    Any further arguments will be deleted.
  • Feb 7, 2009, 07:12 AM
    virginiawife
    I have used the Ben wa balls and did not get much from them--i did not like the wire and it was similar to putting a tampon in without an applicator.

    I have used an egg that has a wireless remote control--I give the remote to my husband and it has 10 different vibrations. I tell him which are my favorite. I have put it in in the evening when we are going out for a bit and give him the remote. The anticipation for him is great, plus he likes the control and making me wiggle--we kind of feel naughty doing it in public. The egg I have is very quiet but the wireless distance is not as long as we would like.

    I got mine from the website: adamandeve.com it is around $40. They are very discreet and they have lots of neat stuff. Shipping is free over a certain amount. There are also customer reviews for most products.

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