For the GUYS!! This sums up most guys problems here. Another great e-mail from DD
This is an e-mail from David Deangelo. He is 1000% correct here. Guys - LEARN from this. It's long BUT almost EVERY guy here does this...
***QUESTION***
Hi Dave,
I recently bought your ebook because I have met a
Girl that I am really into and I must make it work
With her. You are probably busy but Im going to
Give you the background story of this and maybe
You will have some specific advice for me.
I met this girl M. in July through a friend
Online. We got to know each other some and after a
Few weeks she came to watch my friend and I at a
Basketball game that we were playing in, and I met
Her in person briefly that day. Unfortunately, I
Did not see her in person again that summer
Because I was back to college soon, so we talked
More online and it went very well. We really
Seemed to hit it off and had a lot in common and
We were definitely good friends. I made her laugh
A lot as we both said and did a lot of silly
Things (she likes that kind of stuff) and we
Continued to talk and get to know a lot about each
Other. I was very supportive of her and she was
The same for me and showed a lot of interest in
What I had to say. She wanted my phone number here
At college and I gave it to her, and we began to
Talk a few times in the evening by phone too. She
Also wanted my mailing address here and sent me a
Package with a card and some goodies that were
Related to some inside jokes we have with each
Other.
This is when I decided that I wanted to be more
Than a friend to her and make a move to tell her
Subtly my intentions. I just told her that I
Thought she was really cool and since we have a
Lot in common I was wondering if she wanted to go
Out sometime when I got back home for break. She
Really didn't have much of a reaction one way or
The other and just said that it would be fun. Well
Gradually things escalated and we spent more and
More time talking to each other online and by
Phone, and we exchanged pictures and packages all
The time and I opened up to her more and more and
Told her how I felt for her. I sent her roses to
Congratulate her and she liked that a lot. She is
Somewhat of a quiet shy girl, but she is really
Nice but also very hesitant. She has never been in
A relationship before, and the funny thing is that
This is true more or less for me too. I continued
To tell her my feelings for her more and she would
Only say that she felt the "same" or "me too". She
Said that she was worried that when I got to meet
Her more when I was home my feelings would not be
The same. So talking till nearly Thanxgiving, it
Was to the point where we knew almost everything
About each other that we could talk about, and I
Was really showering her with attention and
Compliments (I know, according to your teaching
This is wrong haha) and she just said that we have
To wait and see. I teased her telling her that
There were some dreams I had but would have to
Wait to tell her how they ended, and she said she
Would eventually open up to me. Well me got
Together finally over my Turkey break and I went
Over to their house for the evening after dinner
(I bought... youre probably saying "doh") and we
Watched movies. Their family seems to like me a
Lot by the way, and I have talked to M.'s sister
And mother on occasions before this. I asked if I
Could put my arm around her and she let me, and
Then before I went home we went for a short walk
And I held her hand to "keep it warm". Before I
Got into the car she gave me a hug and I invited
Her over for tomorrow, and that since we are an
Hour away from each other's house she could stay
The night to save time. So we had a good time
Thursday and she met my family, and we played
Games and movies and such, and I said she could
Sit with me in my couch where it was warmer and
She accepted. After the movie was done at about
2:30 am, I shut it off and we just lay there
Reclining. I started to stroke her arm and gently
Rub her hands, and then I went to her face and
Neck and hair, once in a while whispering in her
Ear and saying she smelt and looked good. She just
Lightly giggled, and rest her head on my chest but
She didn't really do any touching herself, but we
Got out of the chair at 6 am and slept till 9 am
And got up and had a fun day again playing games
And I showed her around town. We played footsie
Under neath the card table some but again it was
Pretty much myself doing all the showing of
Affection. We had a candle lit dinner that night
And I asked her if her doubts had been answered
Yet, and she said she knew how I felt but that I
Needed to get to know her more and that she just
Was hesitant and not able to open up as much as I
Am yet. She sat in the couch with me again Friday
Night and it was more of the same and then she
Went to bed at 3, but I couldn't sleep that night
Because I really wondered if I was maybe being too
Serious and forward for her. She wanted up at 6:15
And so I woke her up touching her face, and we lay
In my bed for about an hour with more of the same
Of me touching her, and then it came time for her
To get ready and say goodbye. I had asked her on
Several occasions over the week at what I felt was
The right time if she wanted to know how my dream
Ended (which we both know what it is hehe) but she
Said not yet and maybe later. I had written her a
Long note that night since I didn't sleep and I
Gave that to her out by her car and she gave me
Another hug and off she went. I flew back out to
School Saturday morning and I have been pretty
Sad, both because I miss her and because Im not
Sure if she feels the same way I do.