Why doesn't my boyfriend want to have sex with me but still watches porn?
Me and my boyfriend have been together for over a year now and we live together. I have a 3 year old and they absolutely adore each other. I couldn't ask for better support when it comes to that. But when I comes to the sexual part of our relationship it has been almost non exsistant for about the last 3-4 months. When we first got together we didn't have sex until about a month and a half into our relationship but when we did have sex it was perfect. Not to often not to little. But in the last few months we have sex maybe 2-3 times a month and its only because he's drunk. He says he's emberessed about his stamina and that if he's sober he's a minute man (which I have never experienced... if anything it's a little long for my liking). He has this porn collection that puts most men to shame. He's got about $600+ in dvds, about 50+ magazines, and his phone constists mainly of pictures and videos. Now I am very pro porn but there is also a limit to how much porn one needs. Don't get me wrong I watch porn and masterbate my fair share but he turns me down to masterbate to porn. Hell sneak it in while I'm downstairs watching TV and he's "going to bed", he's admitted to watching porn @ work, and pretty much whenever I'm not around. I will admit I have gained almost 15 pounds since we started dating but his previous serious girlfriend was way heavier than I am. I not fat or anything maybe a little chubby but he insists that I'm gorgeous and he loves having sex with me. But when it comes down to it, he's always turning me down saying its to late or whatever the excuse may be. He treats me like a queen most of the time and for the most part our relationship is strong. This situation has almost broken us up a couple times and I'm running out of options. Why would he rather watch porn than have sex with me?
Is my boyfriend a sex addict?
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I've been with my boyfriend for over a year now and I actually posted. Something on here before about him always watching porn and not wanting to have sex with me. It eventually came down to the point where I had to leave him until he promised to delete all the porn off his phone and to stop watching it if he wasn't going to have sex with me. It started to go better for a couple months but last week I went to check my email and his was up and started checking his by mistake. Once I realized it was his I went to sign him out and noticed some porn email and decided to check it. Turns out while we've been dating he's signed up for 3 different adult match sites such as newbiebudes and hornymateches and whatnot. He never entered his info like he was looking for someone to hook up with he just signed up for the newsletter and free stuff and whatnot. I looked through it some more and found out that before me and him ever got together he was trying to meet girls online just to hook up with on all sorts of different sites- craigslist adultfriendfinder etc and some of the emails that I read were pretty dirty and it seems like he hooked up with some of these girls from these websites. He's the sweetest most respectable man I've ever been with but this side of him I think is disgsuting and pathetic. I myself have a strong sex drive and like some pretty kinky stuff but when it comes to meeting complete strangers on the internet for a one night stand just grosses me out. Plus there's the fact that he still doesn't want to have sex with me that often. Id say maybe 3 times a month if that. He has 1000$ worth of dvds over 50 magazines and regularly looks at porn on his phone. His phone used to be filled with porn and have only a couple of pictures of me on it which I found really offensive. He used to look at porn at his work but he's been recently laid off so he has no access to the internet except on his phone. I know he's not cheating on me he's always home and not doing anything suspicious ever. I just don't know if I can look at him ever again without seeing those pathetic emails. He's a gorgeous guy who trust me would never have a problem finding a date. I'm just baffeled of why he would resort to that kind of stuff. I also saw a wish list he had created on the website he buys his porn dvds from and its almost 5000$ worht of dvds and some of them are pretty weird. He has an fetish he's told me about but when it comes to opening up about sex that's all he will really say- "I'm an man" that's all I get out of him. Any thoughts?