Boyfriend(now husband) cheated now there is a baby
I don't know what to do. My husband cheated on me for months (maybe a year) and ended up with the other woman being pregnant and having his child. He swears that he has ended things. I believed him, just like I believed him when he said he ended things before and she got pregnant.
The baby is 8 1/2 months old. We have been married for 3 weeks and I can't stand the fact that she calls him. I know that there has to be some contact because of the child, but I feel like there is a lot more contact than I am aware of. I hate when he has to meet her to pick up the baby every weekend. I hate when he has to go to the baby's doctors appt with her. It is like a knife in my back!
This morning she called and I answered the phone. She wouldn't tell me what she wanted only that she wanted to talk to him. It caused a huge fight between me and my husband. I want to trust him, I love him with all my heart. But now I am having second thoughts about even having married him.
We have been together for 7 years, and the only thing I ever wanted was to spend my life with him. I broke up with him 2 weeks before we got married because I didn't think I could deal with her being in our lives forever. He promised me that he would make me feel better about it, but he hasn't.
In the 3 weeks we have been married we have only had sex 4 times. I am just not interested. This makes him mad, but I don't want to have sex with him because I think about them, and what they did. This has only gotten worse since we got married. I think maybe I made a huge mistake marrying him.
I love him, I want our marriage to work, but I don't know if I can move beyond his betrayal. Please help me make a decision. He won't go to counseling. He thinks I need to "just get over it".